Einu sinni fur\u00f0a\u00f0i Keli sig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 \u00e9g \u00e6tti miklu au\u00f0veldara me\u00f0 a\u00f0 treysta \u00f3kunnugum en \u00e1stvinum m\u00ednum. \u00c9g sag\u00f0i honum a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri n\u00fa ekkert skr\u00fdti\u00f0. \u00deeir einu sem hef\u00f0u fari\u00f0 illa me\u00f0 mig v\u00e6ri f\u00f3lk sem \u00e9g \u00feekkti og treysti. \u00de\u00f3tt sta\u00f0h\u00e6fingin beri \u00f3neitanlega keim af kaldh\u00e6\u00f0ni er sannleikskjarni \u00ed henni f\u00f3lginn.<\/p>\n
Um lei\u00f0 og ma\u00f0ur treystir einhverjum, gefur ma\u00f0ur honum \u00e1kve\u00f0i\u00f0 vald. A\u00f0 treysta einhverjum merkir a\u00f0 ma\u00f0ur gefur honum vald til a\u00f0 s\u00e6ra sig, sv\u00edkja e\u00f0a breg\u00f0ast \u00e1 annan h\u00e1tt og reiknar me\u00f0 a\u00f0 hann breg\u00f0ist ekki. Svo skj\u00e1tlast manni yfirleitt og \u00fev\u00ed fylgir botnlaus s\u00e1rsauki. Ma\u00f0ur vill ekki lenda \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed aftur. Hva\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 aftur og aftur og aftur. \u00deannig a\u00f0 ma\u00f0ur h\u00e6ttir a\u00f0 reikna me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk standi undir \u00fev\u00ed trausti sem ma\u00f0ur s\u00fdnir \u00fev\u00ed. Ver\u00f0ur skept\u00edskur. Kaldh\u00e6\u00f0inn. J\u00e1j\u00e1 l\u00edka bitur, \u00fea\u00f0 \u00feykir bara ekki t\u00f6ff a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a \u00fea\u00f0.<\/p>\n
\u00dea\u00f0 er skelfileg tilfinning a\u00f0 hafa gefi\u00f0 einhverjum vald til a\u00f0 s\u00e6ra sig en eiga b\u00e1gt me\u00f0 a\u00f0 tr\u00faa a\u00f0 hann muni ekki nota \u00fea\u00f0. Eins og a\u00f0 b\u00faa \u00e1 jar\u00f0skj\u00e1lftasv\u00e6\u00f0i. Og ekki er sk\u00e1rra a\u00f0 elska einhvern sem reiknar alveg eins me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 ma\u00f0ur stingi hann \u00ed baki\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 er erfi\u00f0leikum bundi\u00f0 a\u00f0 elskast \u00ed heilbrynju. Hva\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 ef ma\u00f0ur lika me\u00f0 sver\u00f0 \u00ed annarri hendi og skj\u00f6ld \u00ed hinni. N\u00e6sta \u00f3m\u00f6gulegt ef vi\u00f0fang \u00e1stleitni manns neitar a\u00f0 koma \u00fat \u00far skri\u00f0drekanum \u00ed \u00feokkab\u00f3t.<\/p>\n
Einu sinni h\u00e9lt \u00e9g a\u00f0 hei\u00f0arleiki v\u00e6ri lausnin \u00e1 \u00f6llum vandr\u00e6\u00f0agangi \u00ed samskiptum f\u00f3lks. A\u00f0 ef einhver k\u00e6mi hei\u00f0arlega fram vi\u00f0 mann \u00fe\u00e1 hlyti ma\u00f0ur a\u00f0 treysta honum. S\u00fdndu m\u00e9r vopn \u00fe\u00edn og verjur og \u00e9g skal kasta af m\u00e9r brynjunni. En \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki alveg svona einfalt. Stundum segir hinn a\u00f0ilinn bara ‘\u00fe\u00fa fyrst’ og hva\u00f0 gerir ma\u00f0ur \u00fe\u00e1? Hei\u00f0arleiki \u00fatheimtir nefnilega l\u00edka \u00e1kve\u00f0i\u00f0 traust. Ef \u00e9g felli brynjuna fyrst, hvernig get \u00e9g \u00fe\u00e1 vita\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa stingir mig ekki? \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki vi\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 b\u00faast a\u00f0 s\u00e1 sem reiknar me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 allt sem hann segi kunni a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a nota\u00f0 gegn honum, segi yfirh\u00f6fu\u00f0 neitt sem skiptir m\u00e1li.<\/p>\n
Hugrekki. \u00dea\u00f0 er kannski lykillinn. Hugrekki\u00f0 er m\u00f3\u00f0ir dygg\u00f0anna segir \u00c1rni<\/a>. Hugrekki er \u00ed e\u00f0li s\u00ednu viljinn til a\u00f0 st\u00edga \u00fat \u00far komforts\u00f3ninu. Ekki a\u00f0 \u00feora, heldur a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta va\u00f0a \u00feegar ma\u00f0ur \u00feorir ekki. Og \u00fe\u00e1 fer ma\u00f0ur a\u00f0 \u00feora.<\/p>\n \u00deori \u00e9g a\u00f0 treysta \u00fe\u00e9r? Fokk nei, hvers vegna \u00e6tti \u00e9g a\u00f0 gera \u00fea\u00f0? \u00de\u00fa g\u00e6tir meitt mig. \u00c6tla \u00e9g a\u00f0 b\u00edta \u00ed mig hugrekki til a\u00f0 treysta \u00fe\u00e9r samt? \u00c9g veit ekki hvort mig langar \u00fea\u00f0 beinl\u00ednis en er eitthva\u00f0 anna\u00f0 \u00ed bo\u00f0i? Get \u00e9g komi\u00f0 hei\u00f0arlega fram vi\u00f0 \u00feig ef \u00e9g treysti \u00fe\u00e9r ekki? Og hva\u00f0a gagn v\u00e6ri a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00ednum hei\u00f0arleika ef \u00e9g treysti ekki \u00e1 hann? Og ef \u00e9g kem ekki hei\u00f0arlega fram vi\u00f0 \u00feig, hversvegna \u00e6ttir \u00fe\u00fa \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 treysta m\u00e9r? Er h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 byggja samband \u00e1 einhverju \u00f6\u00f0ru en trausti og hei\u00f0arleika? \u00c1st? Ekki ef \u00e1stin er ekki anna\u00f0 en \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 kj\u00f3sa n\u00e1vist einhvers. Svolei\u00f0is \u00e1st gengur upp milli foreldra og barna e\u00f0a \u00ed hverju \u00fev\u00ed sambandi \u00fear sem hlutverk annars a\u00f0ilans er a\u00f0 treysta og hins a\u00f0 vernda en samband sem byggist \u00e1 \u00e1stinni einni saman gengur ekki upp \u00e1 milli jafningja.<\/p>\n \u00dea\u00f0 er tilt\u00f6lulega au\u00f0velt a\u00f0 treysta einhverjum sem veit ekkert anna\u00f0 en \u00fea\u00f0 sem ma\u00f0ur segir honum. \u00d6\u00f0ru m\u00e1li gegnir um \u00fe\u00e1 sem sj\u00e1 \u00ed gegnum mann, vita hva\u00f0 stingur og hva\u00f0 ekki. Vi\u00f0 erum farin a\u00f0 \u00feekkjast of vel til a\u00f0 treysta hvort \u00f6\u00f0ru. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki neikv\u00e6tt \u00ed sj\u00e1lfu s\u00e9r, bara hluti af ferlinu. Eins og \u00feegar barn fer a\u00f0 hafa vit \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hr\u00e6\u00f0ast og beinir \u00f3tta s\u00ednum a\u00f0 allskyns hlutum sem eru ekkert h\u00e6ttulegir. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki sl\u00e6mt a\u00f0 \u00f3ttast en ma\u00f0ur \u00fearf a\u00f0 takast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 svo \u00fea\u00f0 ver\u00f0i ekki a\u00f0 vandam\u00e1li.<\/p>\n \u00deegar \u00e9g var l\u00edtil var \u00e9g hr\u00e6dd vi\u00f0 rykl\u00f3 og frey\u00f0iba\u00f0. Hvorttveggja l\u00e6ddist og gat breytt um l\u00f6gun. Ma\u00f0ur vissi ekki vi\u00f0 hverju var a\u00f0 b\u00faast. N\u00fa er \u00e9g bara hr\u00e6dd vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 sem er raunverulega h\u00e6ttulegt. T.d. heimsvaldastefnu og alk\u00f3h\u00f3lisma og h\u00e6ttuna \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 einhver sem skiptir mig m\u00e1li breg\u00f0ist m\u00e9r. Sem betur fer eru ekki margir sem skipta mig svo miklu m\u00e1li a\u00f0 \u00e9g \u00feurfi a\u00f0 vita hvers er a\u00f0 v\u00e6nta af \u00feeim. \u00dea\u00f0 yr\u00f0i \u00feokkalega ge\u00f0b\u00f3lguvaldandi \u00e1stand.<\/p>\n ——————————————–<\/p>\n Flottur pistill.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n Posted by: Hulda H\u00e1konard\u00f3ttir | 6.03.2008 | 11:15:14<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Einu sinni fur\u00f0a\u00f0i Keli sig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 \u00e9g \u00e6tti miklu au\u00f0veldara me\u00f0 a\u00f0 treysta \u00f3kunnugum en \u00e1stvinum m\u00ednum. \u00c9g sag\u00f0i honum a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri n\u00fa ekkert skr\u00fdti\u00f0. \u00deeir einu sem hef\u00f0u fari\u00f0 illa me\u00f0 mig v\u00e6ri f\u00f3lk sem \u00e9g … Halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 lesa