I feel we should take our relationship to the next level.<\/p>\n
Eitthva\u00f0 \u00ed \u00feessa veruna heyrist stundum \u00ed amer\u00edskum sj\u00f3nvarps\u00fe\u00e1ttum en \u00e9g hef aldrei \u00e1tta\u00f0 mig almennilega \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 \u00feetta merkir. \u00cdslendingar hafa ekki tileinka\u00f0 s\u00e9r stefnum\u00f3tahef\u00f0 \u00ed l\u00edkingu vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 sem t\u00ed\u00f0kast vestanhafs og l\u00edklega er \u00feessi levelahugmynd eitthva\u00f0 sem helst \u00ed hendur vi\u00f0 hana. \u00c9g er a\u00f0 v\u00edsu ekkert viss um a\u00f0 m\u00edn samb\u00f6nd s\u00e9u normi\u00f0 en ef \u00e9g tala af eigin reynslu og \u00fev\u00ed sem \u00e9g s\u00e9 \u00ed kringum mig, \u00fe\u00e1 eru \u00ed mesta lagi \u00ferj\u00fa sk\u00fdr og skilgreind ‘level’ \u00ed hverju sambandi og oftar bara tv\u00f6. \u00deegar \u00e9g sef hj\u00e1 einhverjum er hann anna\u00f0hvort b\u00f3lf\u00e9lagi e\u00f0a k\u00e6rasti og \u00e9g geri mj\u00f6g sk\u00fdran greinarmun \u00e1 \u00feessu tvennu.<\/p>\n
B\u00f3lf\u00e9lagi getur veri\u00f0 ind\u00e6ll og skemmtilegur \u00ed sm\u00e1sk\u00f6mmtum en er ekki efni \u00ed langt\u00edmaf\u00e9laga. B\u00f3lf\u00e9laga hitti \u00e9g \u00ed allra mesta lagi vikulega, \u00e9g gisti ekki hj\u00e1 honum og b\u00fd\u00f0 honum ekki heim til m\u00edn. \u00c9g gef honum ekki j\u00f3lagj\u00f6f og kynni hann ekki fyrir fj\u00f6lskyldu minni og vinum. \u00c9g bor\u00f0a hugsanlega me\u00f0 honum hamborgara \u00ed h\u00e1deginu en leyfi honum ekki a\u00f0 borga fyrir mig (yfirleitt borga \u00e9g fyrir hann, bara til a\u00f0 undirstrika \u00fea\u00f0 hver stj\u00f3rnar :-\u00fe ) og \u00e9g elda ekki heima hj\u00e1 honum, bi\u00f0 hann ekki a\u00f0 gera vi\u00f0 bila\u00f0a gluggafestingu e\u00f0a geri neitt anna\u00f0 sem minnir \u00e1 heimilisl\u00edf.<\/p>\n
Ef \u00e9g hinsvegar \u00e1 k\u00e6rasta \u00fe\u00e1 merkir \u00fea\u00f0 kl\u00e1rlega a\u00f0 \u00e9g vil gjarnan a\u00f0 hann gegni st\u00f3ru hlutverki \u00ed l\u00edfi m\u00ednu. \u00c9g ey\u00f0i st\u00f3rum hluta fr\u00edt\u00edma m\u00edns me\u00f0 honum strax \u00e1 fyrstu vikunum, tek r\u00f3mant\u00edskum tilbur\u00f0um me\u00f0 \u00fe\u00f6kkum og kynni hann sem k\u00e6rasta. \u00c9g hef aldrei fundi\u00f0 fyrir neinum s\u00e9rst\u00f6kum st\u00f6kkum heldur hefur sambandi\u00f0 \u00fer\u00f3ast eins og hver \u00f6nnur vin\u00e1tta. Sm\u00e1msaman erum vi\u00f0 farin a\u00f0 tala um einkam\u00e1l sem ma\u00f0ur myndi ekki r\u00e6\u00f0a vi\u00f0 b\u00f3lf\u00e9laga og taka afdrifar\u00edkar \u00e1kvar\u00f0anir \u00ed samr\u00e1\u00f0i. Ma\u00f0ur \u00e1 engin leyndarm\u00e1l sem hinn m\u00e1 ekki vita um og \u00feetta endar svo anna\u00f0hvort \u00ed samb\u00fa\u00f0 e\u00f0a sambandi\u00f0 sl\u00edtnar, \u00e9g s\u00e9 allavega engin sk\u00fdr millistig \u00e1 milli k\u00e6rasta og eiginmanns.<\/p>\n
\u00c9g hef upplifa\u00f0 undarleg milli\u00ferep milli b\u00f3lf\u00e9laga og k\u00e6rasta. \u00dea\u00f0 gerist \u00feegar annar a\u00f0ilinn telur sig vera \u00ed \u00e1starsambandi (af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hinn heg\u00f0a\u00f0i s\u00e9r eins og \u00feau v\u00e6ru \u00e1stfangin) en hinn vill engar skuldbindingar en l\u00e1\u00f0ist bara a\u00f0 segja fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed. Og j\u00e1, \u00e9g \u00feekki d\u00e6mi \u00feess a\u00f0 b\u00f3lf\u00e9lagafyrirkomulag hafi \u00fer\u00f3ast \u00fat \u00ed k\u00e6rustusamband en \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki alltaf sl\u00edkt sem um er a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a \u00feegar spurningin um n\u00e6sta ‘level’ kemur upp \u00ed amer\u00edskum sj\u00f3nvarps\u00fe\u00e1ttum; oftast eru \u00fea\u00f0 kl\u00e1rlega alv\u00f6ru samb\u00f6nd. Samt vir\u00f0ist \u00feetta ‘n\u00e6sta level’ d\u00e6mi ekki vera beinl\u00ednis b\u00f3nor\u00f0 heldur samkomulag um einhverskonar millistig.<\/p>\n
Er mitt k\u00e6rustusamband \u00e1 einhverjum s\u00e9rst\u00f6kum level? Og hva\u00f0a level \u00fe\u00e1? Level 1 e\u00f0a 2? Hversu m\u00f6rg level eru \u00ed einu \u00e1starsambandi og hva\u00f0 einkennir hvert \u00feeirra? M\u00e9r finnst mitt samband ekki vera \u00e1 neitt \u00f6\u00f0ru stigi n\u00fana en \u00fea\u00f0 var fyrir 4 m\u00e1nu\u00f0um. \u00dea\u00f0 eina sem hefur breyst er a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00feekkjumst p\u00ednul\u00edti\u00f0 betur. Ekki einu sinni neitt miki\u00f0 betur. Setjum sem svo a\u00f0 s\u00fa flippa\u00f0a a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0a k\u00e6mi upp a\u00f0 Walter vildi fara me\u00f0 sambandi\u00f0 yfir \u00e1 ‘n\u00e6sta level’ (m\u00e9r skilst a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 undantekningarlaust konan sem \u00f3skar eftir \u00fev\u00ed, \u00feetta vir\u00f0ist eitthva\u00f0 tengt t\u00ed\u00f0ahringnum) hvern fjandann myndi \u00fea\u00f0 merkja? \u00c6tti \u00e9g \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 gera eitthva\u00f0 s\u00e9rstakt sem \u00e9g geri ekki n\u00fana? Strauja skyrturnar hans e\u00f0a eitthva\u00f0 svolei\u00f0is? V\u00e6ri hann me\u00f0 \u00feessu a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 segja m\u00e9r a\u00f0 hann vildi f\u00e1 a\u00f0gang a\u00f0 t\u00f6lvup\u00f3stinum m\u00ednum e\u00f0a borga rafmagnsreikninginn minn? E\u00f0a a\u00f0 \u00e9g m\u00e6tti breyta skipulaginu \u00ed eldh\u00fasssk\u00e1punum hans? Myndi \u00feetta merkja a\u00f0 hann f\u00e6ri a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta mig um a\u00f0 s\u00e6kja b\u00f6rnin hans \u00ed sk\u00f3lann e\u00f0a a\u00f0 \u00e9g \u00e6tti a\u00f0 setja h\u00e1rey\u00f0ingarkrem \u00e1 innkaupalistann \u00feegar hann fer \u00fat \u00ed b\u00fa\u00f0?<\/p>\n
\u00cd alv\u00f6ru tala\u00f0; hva\u00f0 \u00ed fjandanum \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ir \u00fea\u00f0 eiginlega \u00feegar kaninn talar um a\u00f0 fara me\u00f0 sambandi\u00f0 \u00e1 n\u00e6sta level?<\/p>\n
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I feel we should take our relationship to the next level. Eitthva\u00f0 \u00ed \u00feessa veruna heyrist stundum \u00ed amer\u00edskum sj\u00f3nvarps\u00fe\u00e1ttum en \u00e9g hef aldrei \u00e1tta\u00f0 mig almennilega \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 \u00feetta merkir. \u00cdslendingar hafa ekki tileinka\u00f0 s\u00e9r stefnum\u00f3tahef\u00f0 \u00ed l\u00edkingu … Halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 lesa