\u00c9g held ekki a\u00f0 lykillinn a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 yfirst\u00edga sj\u00faklega h\u00f6fnunarkennd e\u00f0a tortryggni s\u00e9 endilega s\u00e1 a\u00f0 vita hver kveikjan var en \u00e9g held a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 geti hj\u00e1lpa\u00f0. \u00c9g held a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 skipti mestu m\u00e1li a\u00f0 gera s\u00e9r grein fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r a\u00f0fer\u00f0ir sem hr\u00e6dd b\u00f6rn nota til a\u00f0 bi\u00f0ja um meira \u00f6ryggi, \u00fe\u00e6r virka ekki \u00ed samskiptum fullor\u00f0inna.<\/p>\n
\u00deegar barn r\u00edgheldur \u00ed foreldri sitt og hlj\u00f3\u00f0ar \u00fe\u00e1 veit foreldri\u00f0 (ef \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki alger f\u00e1viti) a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 m\u00e1 ekki hlaupa burt og skilja barni\u00f0 eftir eitt. \u00cd flestum tilvikum koma mamma og pabbi aftur eins flj\u00f3tt og h\u00e6gt er og \u00fev\u00ed h\u00e6rra sem barni\u00f0 hlj\u00f3\u00f0ar \u00fev\u00ed betur sinnir barnf\u00f3stran \u00fev\u00ed. Ef \u00fe\u00fa hinsvegar sem fullor\u00f0in manneskja reynir a\u00f0 r\u00edghalda \u00ed elskhuga sem vill fara \u00fe\u00e1 bara fer hann samt. \u00cd sk\u00e1rsta falli n\u00e6r\u00f0u \u00feeim vafasama \u00e1rangri a\u00f0 sitja uppi me\u00f0 j\u00f3j\u00f3 samband sem fer st\u00f6\u00f0ugt verr me\u00f0 \u00feig.<\/p>\n
Ef hr\u00e6dda barni\u00f0 ullar \u00e1 n\u00fdju f\u00f3struna \u00ed leiksk\u00f3lanum og reynir st\u00f6\u00f0ugt \u00e1 \u00feolrif hennar, \u00fe\u00e1 segir h\u00fan ekki upp st\u00f6rfum heldur gerir s\u00e9r grein fyrir a\u00f0 barni\u00f0 er \u00f6ryggislaust og vinnur traust \u00feess h\u00e6gt og r\u00f3lega. Ef \u00fe\u00fa aftur \u00e1 m\u00f3ti s\u00fdnir manni sem \u00fe\u00fa ert a\u00f0 byrja a\u00f0 kynnast tortryggni e\u00f0a fjandskap, \u00fe\u00e1 stendur hann ekkert \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 r\u00f3a \u00feig ni\u00f0ur og vinna hjarta \u00feitt \u00ed r\u00f3legheitum. Hann bara fer. \u00dea\u00f0 sem virka\u00f0i hj\u00e1 leiksk\u00f3labarninu virkar bara ekki lengur.<\/p>\n
\u00deegar einhver vill \u00feig ekki, \u00fe\u00e1 er hann beinl\u00ednis a\u00f0 gefa \u00fe\u00e9r \u00feau skilabo\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa s\u00e9rt ekki h\u00e6f \u00ed hlutverki\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekkert fl\u00f3knara. Ef hann teldi a\u00f0 hann v\u00e6ri vandam\u00e1li\u00f0 myndi hann takast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed sta\u00f0 \u00feess a\u00f0 losa sig vi\u00f0 \u00feig. Ef \u00fe\u00fa ert heilbrig\u00f0, fullor\u00f0in manneskja \u00fe\u00e1 upplifir \u00fe\u00fa sorg vi\u00f0 sl\u00edkar a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0ur, en \u00fe\u00fa gengur ekki af g\u00f6flunum. \u00de\u00fa ver\u00f0ur r\u00e1\u00f0villt og rei\u00f0 og f\u00e6r \u00fdmsar bila\u00f0ar hugmyndir en svo jafnar\u00f0u \u00feig og leggur kalt mat \u00e1 \u00feann d\u00f3m hans a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa s\u00e9rt ekki n\u00f3gu g\u00f3\u00f0. Hugsanlega kemstu a\u00f0 \u00feeirri ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0u a\u00f0 hann hafi r\u00e9tt fyrir s\u00e9r og \u00fe\u00e1 b\u00e6tir\u00f0u v\u00e6ntanlega \u00far \u00feessum hro\u00f0alegu g\u00f6llum \u00fe\u00ednum og lendir aldrei framar \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 f\u00e1 svolei\u00f0is d\u00f3m. \u00de\u00f3 getur allt eins veri\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e9r finnist l\u00edklegra a\u00f0 hann hafi rangt fyrir s\u00e9r, a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa s\u00e9rt bara alveg n\u00f3gu g\u00f3\u00f0 og \u00fear sem er ekkert vit \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 velta r\u00f6ngu \u00e1liti fyrir s\u00e9r mj\u00f6g lengi \u00fe\u00e1 bara l\u00e6tur\u00f0u hann um sitt ranga \u00e1lit og kynnist einhverjum sem telur sig ekki of fullkominn fyrir \u00feig.<\/p>\n
Ef \u00fe\u00fa hinsvegar ert veik af h\u00f6fnunarkennd, \u00fe\u00e1 er l\u00edklegt a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa ver\u00f0ir ofbo\u00f0slega upptekin af van\u00fe\u00f3knun hins a\u00f0ilans. \u00de\u00e9r finnst eins og eitthva\u00f0 hr\u00e6\u00f0ilegt muni gerast \u00feegar hann fer og \u00fe\u00fa beitir r\u00e1\u00f0um sem virka ekki fyrir fullor\u00f0na til a\u00f0 halda \u00ed hann, jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt hann s\u00e9 ekki einu sinni g\u00f3\u00f0ur vi\u00f0 \u00feig. E\u00f0a \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa gerir eins og \u00e9g, l\u00e6tur hann r\u00f3a en tekur \u00feeim n\u00e6sta me\u00f0 s\u00f6mu var\u00fa\u00f0 og laminn hundur og varast mj\u00f6g lengi a\u00f0 gefa honum vald til a\u00f0 s\u00e6ra \u00feig.<\/p>\n
Barn er algerlega h\u00e1\u00f0 foreldrum s\u00ednum og jafnvel heilbrig\u00f0asta f\u00f3lk er st\u00f6\u00f0ugt a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 endurheimta \u00f6ryggi\u00f0 sem \u00feau g\u00e1fu okkur og sviku okkur um \u00e1 v\u00edxl. Vi\u00f0 reynum a\u00f0 tryggja \u00f6ryggi okkar me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 taka stj\u00f3rn \u00e1 einn e\u00f0a annan h\u00e1tt. Sum okkar ur\u00f0u mj\u00f6g \u00fej\u00e1lfu\u00f0 \u00ed stj\u00f3rnunara\u00f0fer\u00f0um sem dug\u00f0u \u00e1 foreldra okkar en duga bara ekki \u00ed samskiptum fullor\u00f0inna. \u00de\u00fa h\u00e6ttir a\u00f0 upplifa h\u00f6fnun sem heimsendi, \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa h\u00e6ttir a\u00f0 tr\u00faa \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00f6ryggi \u00feitt s\u00e9 jafn h\u00e1\u00f0 vel\u00fe\u00f3knun annarra og \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa varst barn. Og \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa h\u00e6ttir a\u00f0 tr\u00faa \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 einhver annar VER\u00d0I a\u00f0 elska \u00feig og EIGI a\u00f0 koma vel fram vi\u00f0 \u00feig \u00fe\u00e1 \u00e1ttar\u00f0u \u00feig allt \u00ed einu \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vel \u00fej\u00e1lfu\u00f0 stj\u00f3rnsemi \u00fe\u00edn gagnast afskaplega vel til a\u00f0 n\u00e1 g\u00f3\u00f0ri stj\u00f3rn \u00e1 \u00fe\u00ednum eigin tilfinningum og vi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0um.<\/p>\n
Og \u00fea\u00f0 virkar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u00c9g held ekki a\u00f0 lykillinn a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 yfirst\u00edga sj\u00faklega h\u00f6fnunarkennd e\u00f0a tortryggni s\u00e9 endilega s\u00e1 a\u00f0 vita hver kveikjan var en \u00e9g held a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 geti hj\u00e1lpa\u00f0. \u00c9g held a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 skipti mestu m\u00e1li a\u00f0 gera s\u00e9r grein fyrir … Halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 lesa