M\u00e9r \u00e6tti ekki a\u00f0 l\u00ed\u00f0a svona. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki einu sinni r\u00f6kr\u00e9tt, sag\u00f0i \u00e9g. Vinkona m\u00edn horf\u00f0i \u00e1 mig \u00feolinm\u00f3\u00f0 og sag\u00f0i m\u00e9r svo \u00ed hundra\u00f0asta skipti a\u00f0 vera ekki svona vond vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfa mig. \u00dea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri ekki h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 afgrei\u00f0a allar tilfinningar me\u00f0 r\u00f6kum. Allar tilfinningar \u00e6ttu r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r… athyglisspan mitt n\u00e1\u00f0i ekki lengra. \u00c9g dreg \u00fea\u00f0 satt a\u00f0 segja st\u00f3rlega \u00ed efa a\u00f0 allar tilfinningar eigi r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r. \u00deetta er svona \u00e1l\u00edka vitlaus klisja og a\u00f0 ma\u00f0ur eigi a\u00f0 vir\u00f0a allar sko\u00f0anir.<\/p>\n
\u00c1 sama h\u00e1tt og sko\u00f0anir, eiga tilfinningar r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r ef \u00fe\u00e6r eru r\u00f6kr\u00e9ttar og sanngjarnar og einnig \u00feegar \u00fe\u00e6r gera ver\u00f6ldina a\u00f0 betri sta\u00f0. \u00c9g get t.d. ekki \u00edmynda\u00f0 m\u00e9r a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0ur \u00fear sem \u00feakkl\u00e6ti \u00e1 ekki r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r, jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fea\u00f0 kunni a\u00f0 skorta r\u00f6klegar forsendur. (\u00c9g er kannski ekki alveg hlutlaus, \u00fear sem m\u00e9r finnst \u00feakkl\u00e6ti vera besta tilfinning \u00ed heimi.) En tilfinningar geta l\u00edka \u00e1tt r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r \u00fe\u00f3tt r\u00f6kin fyrir \u00feeim s\u00e9u sn\u00fain og jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fe\u00e6r s\u00e9u bygg\u00f0ar \u00e1 mist\u00falkun, yfirf\u00e6rslu e\u00f0a alh\u00e6fingum. \u00dea\u00f0 er meiri \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0a til a\u00f0 s\u00fdna tilfinningum tillitssemi en sko\u00f0unum vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 tilfinningar byggja alltaf \u00e1 reynslu, \u00fe\u00f3tt f\u00f3lk dragi hinsvegar stundum undarlegustu \u00e1lyktanir af reynslu sinni. \u00dea\u00f0 er sennilega \u00e1 \u00feeim r\u00f6kum sem menn reisa \u00fe\u00e1 hugmynd a\u00f0 allar tilfinningar eigi r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r. M\u00f3\u00f0ir \u00e1 t.d. r\u00e9tt \u00e1 elska illa innr\u00e6tta og \u00ferautlei\u00f0inlega krakka\u00f3bermi\u00f0 sitt \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00feurfa a\u00f0 r\u00f6ksty\u00f0ja \u00e1st s\u00edna. F\u00f3rnarlamb ofbeldis \u00e1 r\u00e9tt \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vera tortryggi\u00f0 gagnvart \u00f6\u00f0rum. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki sanngjarnt gangvart manneskju sem er \u00ed tilfinningalegu uppn\u00e1mi a\u00f0 krefja r\u00f6kstu\u00f0nings fyrir uppn\u00e1minu.<\/p>\n
Vi\u00f0 hlj\u00f3tum a\u00f0 \u00feurfa a\u00f0 s\u00fdna tilfinningum s\u00e9rstaka tillitssemi en merkir \u00fea\u00f0 endilega a\u00f0 tilfinningar eigi alltaf r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r? \u00c1 tilefnislaus afbr\u00fd\u00f0isemi t.d. einhvern s\u00e9rstakan r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r? Hva\u00f0 felst \u00fe\u00e1 \u00ed \u00feeim r\u00e9tti? Hefur einhver r\u00e9tt til \u00feess a\u00f0 rei\u00f0ast ungbarni fyrir a\u00f0 gr\u00e1ta, girnast \u00feroskaheft f\u00f3lk kynfer\u00f0islega e\u00f0a gle\u00f0jast yfir \u00f3f\u00f6rum annarra?<\/p>\n
M\u00e9r finnst alls ekki a\u00f0 allar tilfinningar eigi alltaf r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r. Ekki frekar en sko\u00f0anir. Hver ma\u00f0ur \u00e1 hinsvegar r\u00e9tt \u00e1 \u00feeim uppl\u00fdsingum sem \u00fearf til a\u00f0 lei\u00f0r\u00e9tta rangar sko\u00f0anir og \u00fea\u00f0 sama \u00e1 vi\u00f0 um tilfinningar. Hver ma\u00f0ur \u00e1 einnig r\u00e9tt \u00e1 a\u00f0 tilfinningum hans s\u00e9 m\u00e6tt me\u00f0 skilningi, jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt a\u00f0rir eigi sk\u00fdlausa kr\u00f6fu \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hann takist \u00e1 vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r. Vi\u00f0 eigum engan s\u00e9rstakan r\u00e9tt \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 bera tilfinningar sem eru \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0ulausar og ska\u00f0legar, hva\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 veita sl\u00edkum tilfinningum \u00fatr\u00e1s. En vi\u00f0 eigum r\u00e9tt \u00feeirri sam\u00fa\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 \u00feurfum til a\u00f0 n\u00e1 stj\u00f3rn \u00e1 \u00feeim, takast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r og lei\u00f0r\u00e9tta.<\/p>\n
\u00c9g held nefnilega a\u00f0 h\u00e6fileikinn til a\u00f0 lei\u00f0r\u00e9tta rangar tilfinningar s\u00e9 eitt af \u00fev\u00ed sem greinir g\u00f3\u00f0a manneskju fr\u00e1 vondri og vi\u00f0 hlj\u00f3tum a\u00f0 bera \u00fe\u00e1 \u00e1byrg\u00f0 gagnvart samfer\u00f0af\u00f3lki okkar a\u00f0 hj\u00e1lpa \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a betri manneskjur.<\/p>\n
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M\u00e9r \u00e6tti ekki a\u00f0 l\u00ed\u00f0a svona. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki einu sinni r\u00f6kr\u00e9tt, sag\u00f0i \u00e9g. Vinkona m\u00edn horf\u00f0i \u00e1 mig \u00feolinm\u00f3\u00f0 og sag\u00f0i m\u00e9r svo \u00ed hundra\u00f0asta skipti a\u00f0 vera ekki svona vond vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfa mig. \u00dea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri ekki h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 … Halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 lesa