-Til hvers a\u00f0 sofa hj\u00e1 einhverjum \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 meina neitt me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed \u00feegar er svona miklu skemmtilegra a\u00f0 hafa tilfinningar me\u00f0 \u00ed spilinu? spur\u00f0i h\u00fan og \u00fear sem m\u00e9r er m\u00e1li\u00f0 skylt hl\u00fdt \u00e9g a\u00f0 svara.<\/p>\n
-Vegna \u00feess lj\u00fafan m\u00edn d\u00fafan a\u00f0 \u00feegar upp er sta\u00f0i\u00f0 fer \u00fea\u00f0 ekki eins hryllilega illa me\u00f0 \u00feig.<\/p>\n
Jamm, hitt er betra. Svo langt sem \u00fea\u00f0 n\u00e6r. R\u00e9tt \u00e1 me\u00f0an \u00fea\u00f0 varir. R\u00e9tt \u00e1 me\u00f0an \u00fe\u00fa ert svo dj\u00fapt sokkin \u00ed \u00e1stina a\u00f0 \u00feig langar ekki einu sinni \u00ed s\u00fakkula\u00f0i. En einn daginn vaknar\u00f0u og \u00e1ttar \u00feig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00feessi skelfilegi dagur \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa fyrst ger\u00f0ir \u00fe\u00e9r lj\u00f3st a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 var aldrei nein \u00e1st, bara einhver t\u00edmabundin ge\u00f0s\u00fdki hj\u00e1 vininum e\u00f0a \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 hann rugla\u00f0i saman \u00e1stinni og \u00fe\u00e6gindakenndinni af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hafa grei\u00f0an a\u00f0gang a\u00f0 \u00fej\u00f3nustu sem hann f\u00e6r ekki lengur hj\u00e1 m\u00f6mmu sinni; a\u00f0 s\u00e1 dagur var ekki einn einstakur atbur\u00f0ur, \u00e1fall sem \u00e1tti a\u00f0 bera \u00feig \u00e1fram til \u00feroska og visku, heldur rau\u00f0i \u00fer\u00e1\u00f0urinn \u00ed \u00e6vis\u00f6gu \u00feinni.<\/p>\n
\u00de\u00fa gefst au\u00f0vita\u00f0 ekki upp vi\u00f0 svo b\u00fai\u00f0. \u00de\u00fa tr\u00fair \u00fev\u00ed enn\u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00feetta helv\u00edtis kvalr\u00e6\u00f0i s\u00e9 or\u00f0inn fastur li\u00f0ur \u00ed tilverunni s\u00e9 h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 sn\u00faa \u00fev\u00ed vi\u00f0. \u00de\u00fa hefur l\u00edklega gert eitthva\u00f0 rangt. Eitthva\u00f0 sem m\u00e1 breyta. Vinir og vandamenn geta oftast gefi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e9r sk\u00fdringar, a.m.k. \u00ed fyrstu 10 skiptin sem \u00feetta gerist. \u00de\u00fa hefur l\u00edklega falli\u00f0 fyrir rangri t\u00fdpu<\/em> (jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fe\u00ednir menn eigi ekkert sameiginlegt anna\u00f0 en a\u00f0 hafa veri\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e9r). \u00de\u00fa hefur ekki veri\u00f0 n\u00f3gu g\u00f3\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1. Nei, hva\u00f0a vitleysa \u00fe\u00fa hefur veri\u00f0 of g\u00f3\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1. \u00de\u00fa gerir of miklar kr\u00f6fur. Menn bera enga vir\u00f0ingu fyrir konum sem gera engar kr\u00f6fur. \u00de\u00fa hefur bara veri\u00f0 of \u00e1kve\u00f0in \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vilja hann. \u00de\u00fa hefur ekki s\u00fdnt honum n\u00e6gan \u00e1huga, hann hefur ekki treyst \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e9r s\u00e9 alvara. \u00de\u00fa hefur bara ekki s\u00fdnt n\u00f3gu miki\u00f0 frumkv\u00e6\u00f0i. \u00de\u00fa misskilur \u00feetta, karlma\u00f0urinn er \u00ed e\u00f0li s\u00ednu vei\u00f0ima\u00f0ur, hann missir \u00e1hugann ef \u00fe\u00fa s\u00fdnir frumkv\u00e6\u00f0i.<\/em><\/p>\n M\u00e1li\u00f0 er a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er alveg sama hva\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa reynir, \u00feegar upp er sta\u00f0i\u00f0 er \u00e1stin ekkert til a\u00f0 st\u00f3la \u00e1. \u00cd rauninni ekkert anna\u00f0 en d\u00f3p. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 lifa e\u00f0lilegu l\u00edfi me\u00f0 henni og \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa f\u00e6r\u00f0 ekki skammtinn \u00feinn ver\u00f0ur\u00f0u \u00f6rv\u00e6ntingarfull og pr\u00f3far sama efni hj\u00e1 einhverjum \u00f6\u00f0rum. Vaknar svo upp…<\/p>\n \u00deessvegna, sj\u00e1lfri \u00fe\u00e9r til verndar, h\u00e6ttir\u00f0u a\u00f0 lokum a\u00f0 rugla saman \u00e1st og kynl\u00edfi. \u00deegar allt kemur til alls \u00e1 \u00feetta tvennt ekkert endilega samlei\u00f0. Ef svo v\u00e6ri \u00ferifist ekki allur \u00feessi kynl\u00edfsi\u00f0na\u00f0ur og f\u00f3lk h\u00e9ldi fremur trygg\u00f0 vi\u00f0 maka sinn en foreldra, systkini og b\u00f6rn. Reyndin er s\u00fa a\u00f0 bl\u00f3\u00f0 er \u00feykkara en vatn, allssta\u00f0ar \u00ed ver\u00f6ldinni. \u00dea\u00f0 er vel h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 lifa \u00e1n r\u00f3mant\u00edskrar \u00e1star.<\/p>\n \u00de\u00fa l\u00e6rir a\u00f0 aftengja. \u00dea\u00f0 er undir pers\u00f3nuger\u00f0 \u00feinni komi\u00f0 hvort \u00fea\u00f0 gerist me\u00f0vita\u00f0 e\u00f0a \u00f3me\u00f0vita\u00f0 en til \u00feess a\u00f0 halda ge\u00f0heilsu \u00feinni ver\u00f0ur \u00fea\u00f0 einmitt \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00fe\u00fa gerir \u00e1 endanum. Og \u00fea\u00f0 er gott. \u00dea\u00f0 ey\u00f0ileggur ekkert fyrir \u00fe\u00e9r m\u00f6guleikann \u00e1 meira tilfinningarugli, verndar \u00feig bara fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 s\u00f6kkva \u00f3me\u00f0vita\u00f0 \u00ed svolei\u00f0is bull. For\u00f0ar \u00fe\u00e9r fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a f\u00f3rnarlamb. \u00dea\u00f0 er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 ekki s\u00e9rlega kvenlegt a\u00f0 vera ekki f\u00f3rnarlamb en \u00fea\u00f0 er betra l\u00edf.<\/p>\n \u00de\u00e9r finnst \u00feetta l\u00edklega kaldranaleg afsta\u00f0a. \u00de\u00fa heldur \u00e1rei\u00f0anlega a\u00f0 manneskja sem getur haldi\u00f0 sl\u00edku fram hlj\u00f3ti a\u00f0 eiga afskaplega b\u00e1gt. \u00dea\u00f0 er misskiliningur m\u00edn fagra og magra. Hamingjan er ekki alltaf \u00f3tukt, h\u00fan bara \u00fer\u00edfst ekki \u00ed einhverju d\u00f3prugli. \u00de\u00f3tt d\u00f3p s\u00e9 betra en hamingjan. Svona r\u00e9tt \u00e1 me\u00f0an v\u00edman varir.<\/p>\n Svo n\u00e6st \u00feegar \u00feetta gerist; n\u00e6st \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa \u00e1ttar \u00feig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 var ekki raunverulegt, a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa varst bara allt \u00ed plati, a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa varst bara d\u00f3pi\u00f0 hans og n\u00fa \u00fearf hann a\u00f0 fara a\u00f0 gera eitthva\u00f0 af viti, pr\u00f3fa\u00f0u \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 sl\u00edta \u00feetta tvennt \u00ed sundur, sofa hj\u00e1 einhverjum sem \u00fe\u00e9r er n\u00e1kv\u00e6mlega sama um.<\/p>\n \u00de\u00e9r finnst \u00fea\u00f0 rangt. Finnst eitthva\u00f0 lj\u00f3tt vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 fr\u00f3a s\u00e9r \u00e1 l\u00edkama annarrar manneskju, jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt vi\u00f0komandi s\u00e9 sam\u00feykkur. Hvar er f\u00f3rnarlambi\u00f0 \u00ed \u00feeim gl\u00e6p? \u00e9g bara spyr. \u00c6tli \u00fe\u00e9r finnist ekki bara svona \u00f3tr\u00falegt a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk geti yfirh\u00f6fu\u00f0 sliti\u00f0 \u00e1stina \u00far tengslum vi\u00f0 kynl\u00edfi\u00f0 og a\u00f0 sl\u00edk samb\u00f6nd hlj\u00f3ti alltaf a\u00f0 enda me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 einhver ver\u00f0i s\u00e1r? L\u00edklega heldur\u00f0u \u00fea\u00f0 og \u00fea\u00f0 er hreint ekki heimskuleg \u00e1lyktun \u00fe\u00f3tt h\u00fan s\u00e9 r\u00f6ng. Vi\u00f0 erum svo f\u00e6r \u00ed \u00feeirri list a\u00f0 lj\u00faga a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfum okkur. Getum svo lengi tali\u00f0 okkur tr\u00fa um a\u00f0 forsendur gj\u00f6r\u00f0a okkar s\u00e9u einhverjar allt a\u00f0rar en \u00fe\u00e6r raunverulega eru. \u00cd \u00fev\u00ed liggur h\u00e6ttan. \u00deessvegna skaltu aldrei stunda skuldbindingarlaust kynl\u00edf me\u00f0 einhverjum sem \u00fe\u00e9r l\u00edkar virkilega vel vi\u00f0. Veldu sk\u00edth\u00e6l. Einhvern sem \u00fe\u00fa veist a\u00f0 mun fara illa me\u00f0 \u00feig ef \u00fe\u00fa fellur fyrir honum. Einhvern sem er au\u00f0velt a\u00f0 fyrirl\u00edta. Einhvern sem vill \u00f6rugglega ekkert me\u00f0 \u00feig hafa anna\u00f0 en a\u00f0 fr\u00f3a s\u00e9r \u00e1 \u00fe\u00e9r.<\/p>\n \u00d3 hva\u00f0 \u00feetta er kuldalegt! Til hvers \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 vera a\u00f0 \u00feessu \u00e1 anna\u00f0 bor\u00f0? V\u00e6ri ekki bara minna vesen a\u00f0 fr\u00f3a s\u00e9r? J\u00fa, r\u00e9tt er \u00fea\u00f0. Miklu minna vesen. Kynl\u00edf hl\u00fdtur a\u00f0 vera manninum nau\u00f0synlegt fyrst hann leggur \u00e1 sig veseni\u00f0 \u00ed kringum \u00fea\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 er a\u00f0 v\u00edsu mun minna vesen a\u00f0 eiga l\u00edfr\u00e6nt kynl\u00edfsleikfang en elskhuga en \u00fea\u00f0 er vesen samt. J\u00e6ja vinan, \u00e9g er eldri og viturri en \u00fe\u00fa og n\u00fa skal \u00e9g segja \u00fe\u00e9r hvers vegna \u00e9g hef sta\u00f0i\u00f0 \u00ed sl\u00edku veseni.<\/p>\n \u00c9g er viss um a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa manst enn\u00fe\u00e1 eftir merkilegustu s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0iranns\u00f3knunum sem vi\u00f0 l\u00e6r\u00f0um um \u00ed framhaldssk\u00f3la. Pabbl\u00f3 og P\u00e9sa og alla \u00fe\u00e1. \u00de\u00fa manst l\u00edklega eftir einni af fyrstu \u00feekktu ranns\u00f3knunum \u00e1 ge\u00f0tengslamyndun apa. (\u00c9g man ekki \u00ed augnablikinu hver ger\u00f0i \u00fe\u00e1 tilraun en \u00fea\u00f0 skiptir n\u00fa ekki meira m\u00e1li en svo a\u00f0 \u00e9g nenni ekki a\u00f0 fletta \u00fev\u00ed upp.) Nokkrir litlir apaungar voru haf\u00f0ir \u00ed b\u00fari \u00fear sem \u00feeir fengu mj\u00f3lkina s\u00edna \u00far v\u00edravirki. \u00cd b\u00farinu var einnig mj\u00fak br\u00fa\u00f0a me\u00f0 andlit en hj\u00e1 henni var enga mj\u00f3lk a\u00f0 f\u00e1. Aparnir h\u00e9ldu sig undantekningalaust n\u00e6r mj\u00faku br\u00fa\u00f0unni. \u00deeir \u00ferosku\u00f0ust ekki eins vel og apar sem alast upp hj\u00e1 m\u00f3\u00f0ur sinni en \u00feeir ur\u00f0u heldur ekki ge\u00f0veikir. Me\u00f0an \u00feeir h\u00f6f\u00f0u br\u00fa\u00f0una heg\u00f0u\u00f0u \u00feeir s\u00e9r \u00e1 allan h\u00e1tt eins og ungb\u00f6rn \u00ed n\u00e1vist m\u00f3\u00f0ur, s\u00fdndu gl\u00f6gg merki um \u00f3hamingju og \u00f6ryggisleysi ef „mj\u00faka mamman“ var tekin fr\u00e1 \u00feeim og fengust ekki til a\u00f0 leika s\u00e9r e\u00f0a sko\u00f0a n\u00fdja hluti. „V\u00edrmamman“ gat alls ekki komi\u00f0 \u00ed sta\u00f0inn, jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt h\u00fan fulln\u00e6g\u00f0i l\u00edkamlegum \u00fe\u00f6rfum \u00feeirra. „Mj\u00faka mamman“ kom hinsvegar n\u00e6stum \u00fev\u00ed \u00ed sta\u00f0inn fyrir alv\u00f6ru m\u00f6mmu.<\/p>\n \u00deessvegna, m\u00edn k\u00e6ra, er meira gagn af einu l\u00edfr\u00e6nu kynl\u00edfsleikfangi en af \u00f6llum titrarasettum veraldar. Jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt l\u00edfr\u00e6na leikfangi\u00f0 tali ekki einu sinni vi\u00f0 \u00feig. Ef \u00fea\u00f0 hefur n\u00f3gu langa handleggi til a\u00f0 halda utan um \u00feig \u00fe\u00e1 getur skuldbindingarlaust kynl\u00edf bjarga\u00f0 ge\u00f0heilsu \u00feinni. Og \u00feess. Manneskjan er nefnilega a\u00f0 h\u00e1lfu leyti villid\u00fdr og a\u00f0 h\u00e1lfu leyti barn. Bara ponkul\u00edti\u00f0 apakr\u00edli sem \u00fer\u00edfst ekki \u00e1n snertingar en getur svosem pluma\u00f0 sig b\u00e6rilega \u00e1n „raunverulegrar“ \u00e1star.<\/p>\n \u00c9g get me\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0ri samvisku m\u00e6lt me\u00f0 skuldbindingalausu kynl\u00edfi. \u00dea\u00f0 er au\u00f0vita\u00f0 ekkert eins gott og a\u00f0 vera me\u00f0 einhverjum sem manni \u00feykir v\u00e6nt um en \u00fea\u00f0 er sk\u00e1rra en ekkert og ma\u00f0ur sleppur vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 leggjast \u00ed r\u00fast \u00feegar \u00fev\u00ed l\u00fdkur. Ma\u00f0ur losnar vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a f\u00f3rnarlamb. G\u00e6ttu \u00fe\u00edn bara \u00e1 einu \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa \u00e1ttar \u00feig \u00e1 \u00feessu. G\u00e6ttu \u00feess a\u00f0 s\u00e1 sem \u00fe\u00fa notar til a\u00f0 fr\u00f3a \u00fe\u00e9r \u00e1 s\u00e9 \u00f6rugglega a\u00f0 \u00feessu \u00e1 s\u00f6mu forsendum og \u00fe\u00fa. Karlmenn eru nefnilega ekki allir sk\u00edth\u00e6lar \u00fe\u00f3tt s\u00e9 oft frekar erfitt a\u00f0 \u00feekkja \u00fe\u00e1 \u00far. \u00deeir eru alveg jafn duglegir a\u00f0 lj\u00faga a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r og vi\u00f0 og halda stundum a\u00f0 ri\u00f0lir\u00ed \u00fati um hvippinn og hvappinn eigi a\u00f0 vera \u00feeim eitthva\u00f0 e\u00f0lilegra en okkur. \u00deeir eiga l\u00edklega erfi\u00f0ara me\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 en vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00e1tta sig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hvort \u00feeim er alvara e\u00f0a ekki. \u00deeir geta or\u00f0i\u00f0 f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mb jafn au\u00f0veldlega og vi\u00f0 og g\u00f3\u00f0ar konur mei\u00f0a ekki leikf\u00f6ngin s\u00edn viljandi. Vertu samt \u00f3hr\u00e6dd vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 pr\u00f3fa ef \u00fe\u00fa hefur ekki \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0u til annars en a\u00f0 \u00e6tla a\u00f0 honum s\u00e9 sama um \u00feig. \u00deegar allt kemur til alls ver\u00f0ur vinurinn a\u00f0 taka \u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed sem hann segir um sj\u00e1lfan sig og langl\u00edklegast er a\u00f0 hann s\u00e9 bara p\u00ednul\u00edtill apaungi. Hann \u00fearfnast \u00fe\u00edn ekki sem pers\u00f3nu, vantar bara br\u00fa\u00f0u til a\u00f0 k\u00fara hj\u00e1.<\/p>\n \u00c9g veit ekki hvort \u00fe\u00fa tr\u00fair m\u00e9r en sannleikurinn er s\u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er n\u00fa bara \u00feessvegna sem f\u00f3lk stendur \u00ed svona faller\u00edi \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 \u00e1kve\u00f0i\u00f0 \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a ekki \u00e1stfangi\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 ska\u00f0ar mann minna.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" -Til hvers a\u00f0 sofa hj\u00e1 einhverjum \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 meina neitt me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed \u00feegar er svona miklu skemmtilegra a\u00f0 hafa tilfinningar me\u00f0 \u00ed spilinu? spur\u00f0i h\u00fan og \u00fear sem m\u00e9r er m\u00e1li\u00f0 skylt hl\u00fdt \u00e9g a\u00f0 svara. -Vegna \u00feess lj\u00fafan … Halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 lesa