\u00deunglyndi er \u00e1stand sem flestir upplifa einhvernt\u00edma \u00e1 \u00e6vinni. Milli 10 og 20% ver\u00f0a einhvernt\u00edma \u00e1 \u00e6vinni \u00fea\u00f0 veikir af \u00feunglyndi a\u00f0 \u00feeir komast ekki \u00fat \u00far \u00fev\u00ed hj\u00e1lparlaust. \u00cd lj\u00f3si \u00feess hve algengt \u00feetta er, finnst m\u00e9r me\u00f0 hreinustu \u00f3l\u00edkindum hversu f\u00e1ir kunna a\u00f0 breg\u00f0ast vi\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed.<\/p>\n
\u00deunglyndi getur veri\u00f0 a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0ubundi\u00f0, hreinlega aflei\u00f0ingar af \u00e1f\u00f6llum e\u00f0a langvarandi \u00f3hamingju e\u00f0a \u00fea\u00f0 getur stafa\u00f0 af efnaskorti. \u00c1st\u00e6\u00f0an skiptir \u00ed sj\u00e1lfu s\u00e9r ekki m\u00e1li, einkennin eru \u00feau s\u00f6mu, yfir\u00feyrmandi vanl\u00ed\u00f0an, vonleysi, \u00f3virkni og mj\u00f6g \u00f3\u00fe\u00e6gileg n\u00e6rvera. \u00deunglyndi er sennilega jafn erfitt fyrir a\u00f0standendur eins og sj\u00faklinginn \u00fev\u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 er varla h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 halda gle\u00f0i sinni \u00ed n\u00e1vist manneskju \u00ed \u00feessu \u00e1standi en \u00e1 hinn b\u00f3ginn getur veri\u00f0 glapr\u00e6\u00f0i a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta f\u00f3lk \u00ed \u00feunglyndiskasti afskiptalaust.<\/p>\n
\u00c9g er ekki ge\u00f0l\u00e6knir en \u00e9g hef b\u00e6\u00f0i lent \u00ed alvarlegum ge\u00f0l\u00e6g\u00f0um sj\u00e1lf og sinnt f\u00f3lki \u00ed \u00feessu \u00e1standi og m\u00e9r finnst me\u00f0 \u00f3l\u00edkindum a\u00f0 vi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00feunglyndi skuli ekki vera jafn sj\u00e1lfsagt n\u00e1msefni \u00ed grunnsk\u00f3lum og umfer\u00f0arfr\u00e6\u00f0sla og brunavarnir. R\u00e1\u00f0in sem flestir gr\u00edpa til eru \u00feau s\u00f6mu og gagnvart f\u00f3lki sem hefur or\u00f0i\u00f0 fyrir minnih\u00e1ttar vonbrig\u00f0um e\u00f0a er bara ekki \u00ed stu\u00f0i. Fyrst vinsamlegar \u00e1bendingar um a\u00f0 ‘hressa sig vi\u00f0’ svo r\u00e1\u00f0leggingar og a\u00f0 lokum fer f\u00f3lk \u00fat \u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fer\u00e6ta vi\u00f0 sj\u00faklinginn, r\u00f6kr\u00e6\u00f0a um \u00fea\u00f0 hvort l\u00edf hans s\u00e9 einhvers vir\u00f0i e\u00f0a ekki. Ef \u00fev\u00ed er haldi\u00f0 \u00e1fram n\u00f3gu lengi ver\u00f0a sj\u00faklingarnir tveir \u00ed sta\u00f0 eins. \u00deeir sem ekki nenna a\u00f0 s\u00f6kkva s\u00e9r \u00ed me\u00f0virkni reyna anna\u00f0hvort a\u00f0 klippa \u00e1 samtali\u00f0, for\u00f0a s\u00e9r e\u00f0a \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00feagga ni\u00f0ur \u00ed f\u00fdlup\u00fakanum me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 taka undir \u00fea\u00f0 sem hann segir. Hvorttveggja er \u00ed huga \u00feess sem str\u00ed\u00f0ir vi\u00f0 \u00feunglyndi sta\u00f0festing \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hann hafi r\u00e9tt fyrir s\u00e9r. \u00dea\u00f0 hlj\u00f3mar kannski mj\u00f6g ge\u00f0veikislega en \u00feunglyndi er sems\u00e9 ge\u00f0sj\u00fakd\u00f3mur, \u00dea\u00f0 getur stafa\u00f0 af aumingjaskap e\u00f0a \u00fer\u00f3ast \u00fat \u00ed aumingjaskap en \u00fea\u00f0 er \u00ed grundvallaratri\u00f0um ge\u00f0sj\u00fakd\u00f3mur og \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 laga \u00fea\u00f0 me\u00f0 me\u00f0 heilbrig\u00f0ri skynsemi.<\/p>\n
\u00dea\u00f0 er ekki n\u00e6rri eins fl\u00f3ki\u00f0 og ma\u00f0ur g\u00e6ti haldi\u00f0 a\u00f0 tala vi\u00f0 einstakling \u00ed andlegri kreppu. Ma\u00f0ur \u00fearf bara a\u00f0 skilja nokkur grundvallaratri\u00f0i:<\/p>\n
a) \u00deunglyndi er sj\u00faklegt \u00e1stand hvernig sem \u00fea\u00f0 er tilkomi\u00f0. A\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed gefnu a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa s\u00e9rt ekki l\u00e6knir \u00fe\u00e1 getur ekki l\u00e6kna\u00f0 manninn, hann ver\u00f0ur anna\u00f0hvort a\u00f0 gera \u00fea\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfur e\u00f0a f\u00e1 faglega hj\u00e1lp. \u00dea\u00f0 eina sem \u00fe\u00fa getur gert er a\u00f0 vera til sta\u00f0ar, r\u00e9tt eins og ef um l\u00edkamlegan sj\u00fakd\u00f3m v\u00e6ri a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a. Auk \u00feess ertu a\u00f0 setja sj\u00e1lfan \u00feig \u00ed h\u00e6ttu \u00fev\u00ed sj\u00faklingurinn hefur stundum sj\u00e1lfur mj\u00f6g \u00f3heilbrig\u00f0ar hugmyndir um \u00e6skilegar l\u00e6kningara\u00f0fer\u00f0ir en getur veri\u00f0 mj\u00f6g sannf\u00e6randi. \u00c9g \u00feekki d\u00e6mi um a\u00f0 \u00feunglynt f\u00f3lk hafi sannf\u00e6rt s\u00edna n\u00e1nustu um a\u00f0 ef \u00feeir f\u00e1i h\u00e1tt peningal\u00e1n ver\u00f0i allt \u00ed stakasta lagi. Ef vi\u00f0komandi er farinn a\u00f0 heg\u00f0a s\u00e9r ska\u00f0lega (leggjast \u00ed r\u00fami\u00f0 e\u00f0a mei\u00f0a sig) komdu honum \u00fe\u00e1 undir l\u00e6knishendur.<\/p>\n
b) \u00deegar \u00feunglyndur ma\u00f0ur heldur \u00fev\u00ed fram a\u00f0 l\u00edf hans s\u00e9 \u00f3n\u00fdtt, \u00fe\u00e1 er hann ekki a\u00f0 kalla eftir r\u00f6kr\u00e6\u00f0u heldur a\u00f0 l\u00e1ta vita a\u00f0 eitthva\u00f0 s\u00e9 a\u00f0. Honum l\u00ed\u00f0ur raunverulega svona. \u00dea\u00f0 er jafn tilgangslaust a\u00f0 r\u00f6kr\u00e6\u00f0a vi\u00f0 f\u00f3lk um l\u00ed\u00f0an \u00feess eins og r\u00f6kr\u00e6\u00f0a tr\u00fam\u00e1l. Hugsanlega fer svo a\u00f0 hinn a\u00f0ilinn fallist \u00e1 r\u00f6k \u00fe\u00edn, en \u00fea\u00f0 lagar ekki tilfinninguna. \u00de\u00fa myndir ekki reyna a\u00f0 segja manni sem kvartar um verk \u00ed f\u00e6ti a\u00f0 \u00fear sem hann s\u00e9 ekki f\u00f3tbrotinn s\u00e9u verkirnir bara vitleysa \u00ed hausnum \u00e1 honum, vegna \u00feess einfaldlega a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00edn sko\u00f0un losar hann ekki vi\u00f0 verkina.<\/p>\n
c) \u00deunglyndur ma\u00f0ur \u00fearf ekki g\u00f3\u00f0 r\u00e1\u00f0, heldur sam\u00fa\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 er jafn tilgangslaust a\u00f0 benda \u00e1 bj\u00f6rtu hli\u00f0arnar eins og a\u00f0 benda f\u00f3tbrotna manninum \u00e1 a\u00f0 hann s\u00e9 \u00fe\u00f3 allavega ekki handleggsbrotinn. \u00dea\u00f0 er tilgangslaust a\u00f0 benda \u00feeim sem er \u00ed \u00feunglyndi eftir a\u00f0 hafa misst vinnuna \u00e1 a\u00f0 hann geti fengi\u00f0 a\u00f0ra vinnu e\u00f0a \u00feeim sem er \u00ed \u00e1starsorg \u00e1 a\u00f0 hann geti elska\u00f0 einhverja a\u00f0ra. \u00d3umbe\u00f0nar r\u00e1\u00f0leggingar hlj\u00f3ma \u00ed sk\u00e1rsta falli f\u00e1r\u00e1nlega en geta l\u00edka orka\u00f0 sem h\u00e1\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00feann sem er mj\u00f6g illa haldinn.<\/p>\n
d) \u00de\u00f3tt \u00feunglyndi s\u00e9 sj\u00faklegt \u00e1stand ber vi\u00f0komandi sj\u00e1lfur \u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 breg\u00f0ast vi\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed. \u00dea\u00f0 er mikill munur \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 gera l\u00edti\u00f0 \u00far l\u00ed\u00f0an hans og a\u00f0 kalla hann til \u00e1byrg\u00f0ar \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 takast \u00e1 vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0. \u00de\u00fa skammar ekki mann \u00ed \u00feunglyndi ekki frekar en \u00fe\u00fa reynir a\u00f0 lina kvalir hins f\u00f3tbrotna me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 segja ‘\u00fe\u00e9r var n\u00e6r’. Alveg \u00e1 sama h\u00e1tt og s\u00e1 sem er f\u00f3tbrotinn ver\u00f0ur a\u00f0 s\u00fdna samvinnu jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 s\u00e1rsaukafullt, \u00fearf a\u00f0 gl\u00edma vi\u00f0 \u00feunglyndi til a\u00f0 yfirvinna \u00fea\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 hj\u00e1lpa \u00feunglyndissj\u00faklingi me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hj\u00fakra honum.<\/p>\n
\u00deegar einhver sem \u00fe\u00e9r \u00feykir v\u00e6nt um er mi\u00f0ur s\u00edn er e\u00f0lilegt a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa byrjir \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed sem virkar \u00e1 heilbrig\u00f0a manneskju \u00e1 erfi\u00f0um degi; – hva\u00f0a vitleysa, \u00fe\u00fa \u00fearft bara a\u00f0 hressa \u00feig vi\u00f0, af hverju fer\u00f0u ekki bara \u00ed n\u00e1m? \u00fea\u00f0 er allt \u00ed lagi a\u00f0 vera gr\u00e1h\u00e6r\u00f0ur, \u00fe\u00fa l\u00e6tur bara lita \u00e1 \u00fe\u00e9r h\u00e1ri\u00f0, h\u00e6ttu n\u00fa \u00feessu v\u00e6li…<\/em> \u00de\u00fa s\u00e9r\u00f0 strax hvort \u00feetta virkar e\u00f0a ekki og ef um \u00feunglyndi er a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a mun \u00feetta sennilega hafa \u00f6fug \u00e1hrif. N\u00e6st \u00feegar \u00fea\u00f0 gerist pr\u00f3fa\u00f0u \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0;<\/p>\n a) vi\u00f0urkenna tilfinninguna en ekki r\u00f6ksemdaf\u00e6rsluna b) l\u00e1ta vi\u00f0komandi taka \u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00cdmynda\u00f0u \u00fe\u00e9r samtal vi\u00f0 mann me\u00f0 mikla verki \u00ed f\u00e6ti. \u00de\u00fa myndir l\u00edklega segja eitthva\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00feessa lei\u00f0:<\/p>\n -Ertu b\u00fainn a\u00f0 vera svona lengi? Pr\u00f3fa\u00f0u a\u00f0 n\u00e1lgast \u00feann \u00feunglynda \u00e1 sama h\u00e1tt<\/p>\n -\u00de\u00e9r l\u00ed\u00f0ur greinilega illa, hefur \u00fe\u00e9r li\u00f0i\u00f0 svona lengi? S\u00e1 sem er meiddur \u00e1 f\u00e6ti reynir sennilega ekki a\u00f0 gera til \u00fe\u00edn \u00f3raunh\u00e6far kr\u00f6fur um a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa l\u00e6knir hann. S\u00e1 \u00feunglyndi g\u00e6ti hinsvegar reynt \u00fea\u00f0.\u00a0\u00de\u00fa getur pr\u00f3fa\u00f0 a\u00f0 bj\u00f3\u00f0a \u00fea\u00f0 sama og \u00feegar \u00fearf bara a\u00f0 ‘hressa hann vi\u00f0’. Horfa me\u00f0 honum \u00e1 b\u00ed\u00f3mynd e\u00f0a gefa honum mat. Ef hann vill ekkert sl\u00edkt, taktu \u00fe\u00e1 mark \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed. Ef \u00fe\u00fa fer\u00f0 a\u00f0 dekstra \u00feann sem er \u00ed \u00feunglyndi \u00fe\u00e1 ertu a\u00f0 gefa honum \u00feau skilabo\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa takir ekki mark \u00e1 honum og \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 au\u00f0velt fyrir hann a\u00f0 f\u00e1 \u00fe\u00f6rfum s\u00ednum fulln\u00e6gt me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 heg\u00f0a s\u00e9r eins og bj\u00e1ni. Pr\u00f3fa\u00f0u frekar eftirfarandi:<\/p>\n -\u00dea\u00f0 er skelfileg tilfinning a\u00f0 halda a\u00f0 \u00f6llum s\u00e9 sama um mann. Ef ekkert kemur \u00fat \u00far svona samr\u00e6\u00f0u og vi\u00f0komandi er ekkert j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0ari, \u00fe\u00e1 getur \u00fe\u00fa ekkert meira gert. Ef \u00e1standi\u00f0 er ekki \u00fea\u00f0 sl\u00e6mt a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0a til a\u00f0 koma vi\u00f0komandi undir l\u00e6knishendur, \u00fe\u00e1 skaltu sj\u00e1lfs \u00fe\u00edn vegna sl\u00edta samtalinu \u00feegar \u00fe\u00fa s\u00e9r\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa kemst ekki lengra. Haf\u00f0u samt \u00ed huga a\u00f0 hversu lei\u00f0inlegur sem vi\u00f0komandi er, \u00fe\u00e1 r\u00e6\u00f0ur hann ekki vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 og h\u00f6fnun getur veri\u00f0 st\u00f3rh\u00e6ttuleg. Ef \u00fe\u00fa \u00fearft a\u00f0 sl\u00edta samtali ger\u00f0u \u00fea\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 hafna honum. \u00de\u00fa getur t.d. sagt;<\/p>\n -M\u00e9r finnst lei\u00f0inlegt a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e9r skuli l\u00ed\u00f0a svona en \u00e9g ver\u00f0 l\u00edka lei\u00f0ur \u00feegar \u00e9g get ekkert gert fyrir \u00feig svo \u00e9g \u00e6tla a\u00f0 fara n\u00fana. \u00c9g hringi \u00ed \u00feig \u00e1 morgun.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00deunglyndi er \u00e1stand sem flestir upplifa einhvernt\u00edma \u00e1 \u00e6vinni. Milli 10 og 20% ver\u00f0a einhvernt\u00edma \u00e1 \u00e6vinni \u00fea\u00f0 veikir af \u00feunglyndi a\u00f0 \u00feeir komast ekki \u00fat \u00far \u00fev\u00ed hj\u00e1lparlaust. \u00cd lj\u00f3si \u00feess hve algengt \u00feetta er, finnst m\u00e9r me\u00f0 hreinustu … Halda \u00e1fram a\u00f0 lesa
\n-me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 svara \u00e1 sama h\u00e1tt og ef hann v\u00e6ri f\u00f3tbrotinn
\n-neita a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a sj\u00faklegar hugmyndir eins og t.d. a\u00f0 hann s\u00e9 einskis vir\u00f0i en \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00feagga ni\u00f0ur \u00ed honum<\/p>\n
\n-me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 nota spurningar meira en sta\u00f0h\u00e6fingar
\n-me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vir\u00f0a \u00f3skir hans um a\u00f0 vera l\u00e1tinn \u00ed fir\u00f0i \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fe\u00fa vitir a\u00f0 s\u00e9 ekkert a\u00f0 marka hann<\/p>\n
\n-Viltu fara upp \u00e1 slys\u00f3?
\n-\u00de\u00fa ert ekki brotinn. \u00deetta lagast sennilega \u00feegar b\u00f3lgan hja\u00f0nar en viltu kannski pr\u00f3fa a\u00f0 taka verkjalyf til a\u00f0 sl\u00e1 \u00e1 \u00feetta?<\/p>\n
\n-J\u00e1 \u00feetta er \u00f6murlegt \u00e1stand, viltu pr\u00f3fa a\u00f0 leita til l\u00e6knis?
\n-\u00c9g held reyndar ekki a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 r\u00e9tt hj\u00e1 \u00fe\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u00feetta lagist aldrei en \u00feetta kannski frekar spurning um hva\u00f0 er h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 gera n\u00fana strax. Eigum vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 koma a\u00f0eins \u00fat og athuga hvort \u00fe\u00e9r l\u00ed\u00f0ur betur?<\/p>\n
\n-Nei \u00fea\u00f0 er reyndar ekki r\u00e9tt hj\u00e1 \u00fe\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u00f6llum s\u00e9 sama um \u00feig en fyrst \u00fe\u00e9r l\u00ed\u00f0ur \u00feannig \u00fe\u00e1 \u00fearftu n\u00e1tt\u00farulega a\u00f0 gera eitthva\u00f0 \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed.
\n-Hva\u00f0 viltu gera \u00ed \u00feessu?
\n-Hva\u00f0 get \u00e9g gert fyrir \u00feig?<\/p>\n