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Sk\u00f3lagj\u00f6ldin greidd og n\u00fa ver\u00f0ur ekki aftur sn\u00fai\u00f0.<\/p>\nSk\u00f3lagj\u00f6ldin greidd og n\u00fa ver\u00f0ur ekki aftur sn\u00fai\u00f0.<\/p>\n
\u00c9g er dau\u00f0fegin a\u00f0 vera ekki a\u00f0 fara \u00ed framhaldsn\u00e1m \u00ed H\u00cd en um lei\u00f0 lafhr\u00e6dd vi\u00f0 sk\u00f3lann \u00fati. Veit ekkert hvernig n\u00e1msmati\u00f0 er, hvort er miki\u00f0 um h\u00f3pvinnu e\u00f0a fyrirkomulagi\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00f6\u00f0ru leyti. Hr\u00e6dd um a\u00f0 \u00e9g ver\u00f0i svo lengi a\u00f0 lesa l\u00f6gfr\u00e6\u00f0itexta \u00e1 ensku a\u00f0 \u00e9g komist ekki yfir efni\u00f0 (komst aldrei yfir a\u00f0 l\u00e6ra neitt almennilega \u00ed H\u00cd \u00fe\u00f3tt efni\u00f0 s\u00e9 n\u00e1nast allt \u00e1 \u00edslensku). Hr\u00e6dd um a\u00f0 \u00e9g f\u00fankeri ekki \u00ed h\u00f3p breskra unglinga (sem hlj\u00f3ta n\u00e1tt\u00farulega a\u00f0 vera allt \u00f6\u00f0ruv\u00edsi en \u00feessir \u00edslensku sem \u00e9g f\u00fankera\u00f0i bara alveg \u00e1g\u00e6tlega me\u00f0). Hr\u00e6dd um a\u00f0 al\u00fej\u00f3\u00f0leg l\u00f6gfr\u00e6\u00f0i s\u00e9 miklu fl\u00f3knari en hin s\u00e9r\u00edslenska snilld (enda \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00e9g viti vel a\u00f0 d\u00f3mar MDE eru mun betur skrifa\u00f0ir og framsettir en flestir \u00edslenskir d\u00f3mar). Hr\u00e6dd um a\u00f0 \u00e9g r\u00e1\u00f0i ekki vi\u00f0 \u00feetta (\u00fe\u00f3tt \u00e9g hafi r\u00e1\u00f0i\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00feetta hinga\u00f0 til).<\/p>\n
ALLIR segja m\u00e9r a\u00f0 h\u00e6tta \u00feessari vitleysu. \u00deetta geti ekki veri\u00f0 verra en \u00e1 \u00cdslandi.
\n„\u00de\u00fa r\u00fallar \u00feessu upp“ er vi\u00f0kv\u00e6\u00f0i\u00f0. \u00dea\u00f0 er bara \u00fev\u00e6la, \u00e9g hef aldrei r\u00falla\u00f0 neinu upp, alltaf \u00feurft a\u00f0 hafa fyrir n\u00e1mi. M\u00e9r finnst \u00fat af fyrir sig \u00e1n\u00e6gjulegt a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk hafi svona miki\u00f0 \u00e1lit \u00e1 m\u00e9r en satt a\u00f0 segja er \u00e9g ekki eins kl\u00e1r og \u00e9g l\u00edt \u00fat fyrir a\u00f0 vera og m\u00e9r \u00fe\u00e6tti vandr\u00e6\u00f0alegt ef k\u00e6mi svo \u00e1 daginn a\u00f0 allt \u00feetta \u00e1g\u00e6ta f\u00f3lk hafi ofmeti\u00f0 mig. \u00c9g g\u00e6ti samt alveg d\u00edla\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 en m\u00e9r finnst verri tilhugsun a\u00f0 r\u00e1\u00f0a ekki vi\u00f0 \u00feetta og sitja uppi me\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 tilfinningu a\u00f0 \u00e9g hafi brug\u00f0ist einhverjum e\u00f0a \u00f6llum e\u00f0a heiminum e\u00f0a sj\u00e1lfri m\u00e9r.<\/p>\n
Einar heldur \u00fev\u00ed fram a\u00f0 \u00e9g s\u00e9 haldin „impostor syndrom“ \u00e1 alvarlegu stigi. \u00c9g tr\u00fai reyndar ekki \u00e1 „impostor syndrome“, held annarsvegar a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 fullkomlega e\u00f0lilegt a\u00f0 efast um eigin getu og a\u00f0 hafa \u00e1hyggjur af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 a\u00f0rir anna\u00f0hvort ofmeti mann e\u00f0a vanmeti, og hinsvegar held \u00e9g a\u00f0 flestir sem \u00fej\u00e1st af meintu heilkenni s\u00e9u raunverulega a\u00f0 f\u00e1st vi\u00f0 erfi\u00f0ari hluti en h\u00e6fileikar \u00feeirra bj\u00f3\u00f0a upp \u00e1 og hafi \u00fev\u00ed einmitt g\u00f3\u00f0a \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0u til a\u00f0 hafa \u00e1hyggjur af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00f6\u00f0rum ver\u00f0i \u00fea\u00f0 lj\u00f3st.<\/p>\n
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\u00c9g kannast alveg vi\u00f0 \u00e1kve\u00f0in einkenni hj\u00e1 sj\u00e1lfri m\u00e9r, eins og \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 taka ekki nema h\u00f3flegt mark \u00e1 hr\u00f3si en \u00e9g fellst n\u00fa samt ekki \u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 neitt „syndrom“ \u00fear sem \u00e9g tek heldur ekkert mark \u00e1 \u00f3sanngjarnri gagnr\u00fdni. \u00dea\u00f0 getur alveg komi\u00f0 \u00fat eins og ma\u00f0ur vanmeti sj\u00e1lfan sig akk\u00farat \u00feegar ma\u00f0ur er kv\u00ed\u00f0inn en \u00ed m\u00ednu tilviki er \u00fea\u00f0 frekar almenn vantr\u00fa \u00e1 d\u00f3mgreind mannanna enda f\u00e1tt sem bendir til \u00feess a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk s\u00e9 skynsamt, svona almennt. \u00c9g held t.d. ekki a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk s\u00e9 \u00f3hei\u00f0arlegt \u00feegar \u00fea\u00f0 l\u00fdsir yfir tr\u00fa sinni \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e9g „r\u00falli \u00feessu upp“ en ef myndin h\u00e9rna efst v\u00e6ri me\u00f0 \u00f6fugum hlutf\u00f6llum (flesir vita ekki hva\u00f0 \u00feeir eru a\u00f0 tala um og restin l\u00fdgur) \u00fe\u00e1 \u00e6tti h\u00fan alveg vi\u00f0 mig. Og v\u00e1 hva\u00f0 \u00e9g tengi vi\u00f0 \u00feessa mynd h\u00e9r til vinstri. En \u00e9g tr\u00fai \u00fev\u00ed ekki a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 neitt \u00f3e\u00f0lilegt vi\u00f0 \u00feessar hugmyndir, ef \u00fat \u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 er fari\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 erum vi\u00f0 alltaf a\u00f0 feika eitthva\u00f0, ekki endilega me\u00f0vita\u00f0 heldur af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 viljum a\u00f0 a\u00f0rir hafi \u00e1lit \u00e1 okkur, \u00fea\u00f0 er bara mannlegt. Hj\u00e1 sumum kemur \u00fea\u00f0 fram \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 birta myndir af fullkomnu fj\u00f6lskyldul\u00edfi \u00e1 FB \u00fe\u00f3tt allt s\u00e9 \u00ed steik \u00e1 heimilinu, hj\u00e1 \u00f6\u00f0rum kemur \u00fea\u00f0 fram \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 gefa viljandi e\u00f0a \u00f3vart \u00fe\u00e1 mynd af s\u00e9r a\u00f0 ma\u00f0ur s\u00e9 h\u00e6fari en ma\u00f0ur \u00ed raun er.<\/p>\n
\u00dea\u00f0 er p\u00ednul\u00edti\u00f0 sorglegt a\u00f0 hlakka ekki til vetrarins. \u00c9g segi ekki a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 engin eftirv\u00e6nting \u00ed m\u00e9r en \u00e1hyggjurnar eru yfirsterkari. \u00c9g s\u00e9 alveg kosti \u00feess a\u00f0 taka mark \u00e1 hr\u00f3si en m\u00e9r gengur ekkert rosalega vel a\u00f0 tr\u00faa \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e9g s\u00e9 alveg a\u00f0 fara a\u00f0 „r\u00falla \u00feessu upp“. Svo finnst m\u00e9r l\u00edka h\u00e1lfger\u00f0ur tv\u00edskinnungur a\u00f0 taka mark \u00e1 hr\u00f3si en \u00e6tla svo a\u00f0 lei\u00f0a neikv\u00e6\u00f0 umm\u00e6li hj\u00e1 s\u00e9r enda \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00e9g myndi r\u00e1\u00f0leggja \u00f6llum \u00f6\u00f0rum einmitt \u00fea\u00f0 – svona er ma\u00f0ur n\u00fa tv\u00f6faldur \u00ed ro\u00f0inu.<\/p>\n
Ma\u00f0ur \u00e6tti a\u00f0 geta veri\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r samkv\u00e6mur og besta lei\u00f0in til \u00feess er s\u00fa a\u00f0 taka hvorki mark \u00e1 lofi n\u00e9 lasti. En s\u00fa vitneskja breytir \u00fev\u00ed ekki a\u00f0 \u00e9g hef (algerlega \u00f3\u00fearfar) \u00e1hyggjur af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk sem skiptir mig m\u00e1li hafi \u00f3raunh\u00e6far hugmyndir um mig.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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