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ENGINN hefur tala\u00f0 fyrir \u00f6fugri s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i<\/a><\/strong>, svo hversvegna \u00ed \u00f3sk\u00f6punum er Eva a\u00f0 b\u00faa til vandam\u00e1l?<\/p>\n

J\u00fa \u00e9g skal segja ykkur \u00fea\u00f0. \u00cd fyrsta lagi er \u00e9g ekki a\u00f0 b\u00faa til vandam\u00e1l heldur a\u00f0 leita fars\u00e6lli lausna \u00e1 raunverulegum vandam\u00e1lum en \u00e9g kem n\u00e1nar a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed s\u00ed\u00f0ar. Afgrei\u00f0um fyrst spurninguna um \u00fea\u00f0 hvort s\u00e9 kannski eitthva\u00f0 til \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 einhverjum finnist \u00f6fug s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i \u00ed kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1lum g\u00f3\u00f0 hugmynd.<\/p>\n

Svari\u00f0 er j\u00e1, \u00feeir eru til. \u00c9g hef m.a.s. sj\u00e1lf tala\u00f0 fyrir \u00f6fugri s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i. Ekki opinberlega, held \u00e9g a\u00f0 m\u00e9r s\u00e9 \u00f3h\u00e6tt a\u00f0 fullyr\u00f0a, enda mj\u00f6g langt s\u00ed\u00f0an \u00e9g \u00e1tta\u00f0i mig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 heimurinn er ekki svart-hv\u00edtur (sem v\u00e6ri \u00f3neitanlega mun \u00fe\u00e6gilegra og s\u00e1 sem ber \u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 samskipti skuli vera svona fl\u00f3kin, \u00e6tti a\u00f0 s\u00e6ta refsingu) en j\u00e1 \u00e1 t\u00edmabili fannst m\u00e9r t\u00falkun helv\u00edtis nau\u00f0garans \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed sem haf\u00f0i gerst, bara ekki skipta neinu fokkans m\u00e1li. Konan hef\u00f0i enga \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0u til a\u00f0 lj\u00faga, svo \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 taka hennar or\u00f0 fyrir \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 hef\u00f0i gerst, v\u00e6ri bara \u00e1g\u00e6t lausn. J\u00e1, \u00feetta fannst m\u00e9r bara, svona um 25 \u00e1ra aldurinn, og \u00feessi hugmynd m\u00edn f\u00e9kk pr\u00fd\u00f0isg\u00f3\u00f0ar undirtektir hvar sem \u00e9g r\u00e6ddi hana.<\/p>\n

Kynfer\u00f0isbrot eru nefnilega \u00feess e\u00f0lis a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri mj\u00f6g einkennilegt ef enginn liti \u00e1 \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i sem lausn. Vi\u00f0 st\u00f6ndum frammi fyrir vandanum, or\u00f0 gegn or\u00f0i, \u00f6rv\u00e6ntingarfull og r\u00e1\u00f0\u00ferota, vi\u00f0 \u00feekkjum \u00f6ll einhvern sem \u00feekkir d\u00e6mi um einhvern sem hefur veri\u00f0 \u00e1saka\u00f0ur um kynfer\u00f0isbrot, getur hreinlega ekki tr\u00faa\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed upp \u00e1 hann og gr\u00edpur til \u00feess a\u00f0 v\u00e6na \u00feolandann um lygi. \u00dea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri beinl\u00ednis \u00f3e\u00f0lilegt a\u00f0 hugsa ekki \u00fat \u00ed m\u00f6guleikann \u00e1 \u00f6fugri s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i enda hefur \u00fea\u00f0 sannarlega veri\u00f0 gert.<\/p>\n

Umr\u00e6\u00f0an um \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i \u00ed kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1lum, hefur komi\u00f0 upp hva\u00f0 eftir anna\u00f0, \u00e9g man fyrst eftir henni hj\u00e1 St\u00edgam\u00f3takonum \u00e1 fyrsta starfs\u00e1ri samtakanna, var \u00fea\u00f0 ekki 1988? \u00deetta var r\u00e6tt \u00ed Morgunbla\u00f0inu snemma \u00e1rs 2005. L\u00f6gmenn hafa hva\u00f0 eftir anna\u00f0 vara\u00f0 vi\u00f0 \u00feessari hugmynd – undarlegt a\u00f0 ey\u00f0a p\u00fa\u00f0ri \u00ed a\u00f0 vara vi\u00f0 hugmyndum sem enginn hefur ympra\u00f0 \u00e1 (\u00fea\u00f0 m\u00e1 skrifa y – Snara segir \u00fea\u00f0) og \u00feetta vi\u00f0horf sk\u00edn v\u00ed\u00f0a \u00ed gegnum umr\u00e6\u00f0una \u00ed dag, t.d.\u00a0h\u00e9r<\/a>, og\u00a0h\u00e9r<\/a>\u00a0og\u00a0h\u00e9r<\/a>. \u00dea\u00f0 skal \u00fe\u00f3 teki\u00f0 fram svo allrar sanngirni s\u00e9 g\u00e6tt a\u00f0 leyniskyttan t\u00f3nar kr\u00f6funa heldur ni\u00f0ur\u00a0h\u00e9r<\/a>\u00a0og \u00fear erum vi\u00f0 komin a\u00f0 n\u00e6stu r\u00f6kum \u00feeirra sem m\u00f3\u00f0gast yfir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e9g skuli vekja m\u00e1ls \u00e1 h\u00e6ttunni \u00e1 \u00f6fugri s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i:\u00a0\u00fea\u00f0 er ekki \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00fe\u00e6r meina<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Nei, \u00fe\u00e6r meina ekki a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 eigi a\u00f0 eigi a\u00f0 taka upp \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i, \u00fe\u00e6r meina bara a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 eigi a\u00f0 slaka \u00e1 s\u00f6nnunarkr\u00f6fum, „endurmennta r\u00e9ttarkerfi\u00f0“ gera \u00fea\u00f0 minna „karll\u00e6gt“, hva\u00f0 sem \u00fea\u00f0 n\u00fa merkir, og svo kannski \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 samf\u00e9lagi\u00f0 eigi a\u00f0 sameinast um a\u00f0 taka mark \u00e1 konum sem segja fr\u00e1 kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi. \u00de\u00e6r \u00e6tla ekki a\u00f0 d\u00e6ma saklausa menn, au\u00f0vita\u00f0 ekki. \u00de\u00e6r eru bara r\u00e1\u00f0\u00ferota og \u00fe\u00e1 kemur \u00feessi st\u00f3rh\u00e6ttulega hugmynd fram, \u00fev\u00ed eitthva\u00f0 ver\u00f0um vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 gera.<\/p>\n

Elskurnar, \u00feetta virkar ekki svona. Vi\u00f0 brei\u00f0um ekki \u00fat almennt samf\u00e9lagsvi\u00f0horf en \u00e6tlum svo r\u00e9ttarkerfinu a\u00f0 hugsa \u00e1 allt annan h\u00e1tt. Auk \u00feess eru \u00fe\u00e6r a\u00f0fer\u00f0ir a\u00f0 slaka \u00e1 s\u00f6nnunarkr\u00f6fum og byggja d\u00f3ma \u00e1 greiningum s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0inga, ekkert anna\u00f0 en \u00f6fug s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i \u00ed dulargervi en \u00fea\u00f0 er efni \u00ed annan pistil. Ef vi\u00f0 viljum a\u00f0 almenningur sameinist um a\u00f0 gefa or\u00f0um kvenna sem k\u00e6ra kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi meira v\u00e6gi en or\u00f0um karla sem segja sig borna r\u00f6ngum s\u00f6kum, \u00fe\u00e1 hlj\u00f3tum vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00e6tlast til \u00feess a\u00f0 r\u00e9ttarkerfi\u00f0 geri \u00fea\u00f0 l\u00edka, hver sem r\u00e9ttl\u00e6tningin er.<\/p>\n

\u00deessi umr\u00e6\u00f0a, sem og s\u00fa stefna a\u00f0 \u00feyngja d\u00f3ma og taka upp v\u00ed\u00f0ari skilgreiningu \u00e1 kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi, er vel meint. R\u00f3t hennar er hjartanleg umhyggja fyrir konum sem eiga um s\u00e1rt a\u00f0 binda. Hvort a\u00f0fer\u00f0in, a\u00f0 tr\u00faa konum skilyr\u00f0islaust og hlusta ekki \u00e1 helv\u00edtis n\u00ed\u00f0inginn, er g\u00f3\u00f0 og \u00e1rangursr\u00edk er svo anna\u00f0 m\u00e1l. M\u00e9r segir svo hugur um a\u00f0 aukin harka og v\u00ed\u00f0ari skilgreiningar, muni fyrr e\u00f0a s\u00ed\u00f0ar sn\u00faast gegn okkur og gera \u00feessi m\u00e1l enn\u00fe\u00e1 erfi\u00f0ari. \u00dea\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 \u00feurfum a\u00f0 gera, og \u00e9g er ekkert a\u00f0 gr\u00ednast; er a\u00f0 slaka \u00e1 vandl\u00e6tingunni og gefa fr\u00e1s\u00f6gn nau\u00f0garans meira v\u00e6gi. J\u00e1 \u00e9g sag\u00f0i \u00fea\u00f0, vi\u00f0 \u00feurfum a\u00f0 s\u00fdna kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00f6nnum \u00e1kve\u00f0na sam\u00fa\u00f0, vi\u00f0 \u00feurfum a\u00f0 gefa nau\u00f0garanum r\u00f6dd.<\/p>\n

\u00c9g reikna me\u00f0 a\u00f0 einhverjir s\u00e9u \u00feegar h\u00e6ttir a\u00f0 lesa og b\u00fanir a\u00f0 afgrei\u00f0a mig sem nau\u00f0garavin. Gott og vel, \u00fea\u00f0 ver\u00f0ur ekkert hj\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed komist a\u00f0 f\u00f3lk fari \u00e1 l\u00edmingunum \u00feegar \u00feessi m\u00e1l eru r\u00e6dd. En \u00fei\u00f0 hin, sem eru\u00f0 vi\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0uh\u00e6f, sp\u00e1i\u00f0 a\u00f0eins \u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 \u00a0hva\u00f0 er a\u00f0 gerast.\u00a0Sj\u00e1i\u00f0 \u00feetta<\/a>. \u00a0H\u00e9r segir ung st\u00falka fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 h\u00fan hafi veri\u00f0 beitt kynfer\u00f0islegu ofbeldi \u00ed fj\u00f6gur \u00e1r samfleytt, \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 gera s\u00e9r grein fyrir \u00fev\u00ed \u00a0og\u00a0„nau\u00f0ganir \u00ed samb\u00f6ndum…“<\/strong>\u00a0eru or\u00f0in sem notu\u00f0 eru til kynningar.<\/p>\n

\u00dear sem \u00feolandi kynfer\u00f0isofbeldis er, \u00fear er einnig gerandi. Ungur ma\u00f0ur \u00ed \u00feessu tilviki. St\u00falkan ger\u00f0i s\u00e9r ekki grein fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hann var \u00ed raun og veru a\u00f0 nau\u00f0ga henni, svo \u00fe\u00e1 vaknar spurningin, ger\u00f0i hann s\u00e9r eitthva\u00f0 frekar grein fyrir \u00fev\u00ed sj\u00e1lfur? Hverjar eru l\u00edkunar \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 ungi ma\u00f0urinn, fyrrum k\u00e6rastinn sem horfir \u00e1 \u00feetta myndband, hugsi sem svo, „n\u00faj\u00e1, \u00e9g nau\u00f0ga\u00f0i henni \u00f3vart \u00ed fj\u00f6gur \u00e1r. Ansans vesen a\u00f0 vera svona mikill kl\u00e1mf\u00edkill, best a\u00f0 \u00e9g leiti m\u00e9r hj\u00e1lpar og h\u00e6tti a\u00f0 vera nau\u00f0gari.“ \u00a0Neeei, \u00e6tli s\u00e9 ekki \u00f6llu l\u00edklegra a\u00f0 hann breg\u00f0ist vi\u00f0 me\u00f0 rei\u00f0i og \u00fathr\u00f3pi stelpuna sem lygasj\u00faka druslu?<\/p>\n

Hugsum okkur ungan mann, 19 \u00e1ra str\u00e1k sem rankar vi\u00f0 s\u00e9r eftir hrottalegt amfetam\u00ednfyllir\u00ed. Pabbi og mamma \u00e6tla ekkert a\u00f0 umbera \u00feessa heg\u00f0un, \u00fea\u00f0 er \u00e1 hreinu. En \u00feau \u00e6tla ekki a\u00f0 sn\u00faa vi\u00f0 honum baki, heldur\u00a0gera honum grein fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 n\u00fa s\u00e9 bara n\u00f3g komi\u00f0. Og hva\u00f0 er \u00fea\u00f0 fyrsta sem \u00feau gera? J\u00fa \u00feau\u00a0spyrja<\/strong>:<\/p>\n

„\u00deorsteinn, hva\u00f0 ger\u00f0ist \u00ed n\u00f3tt? Hva\u00f0 f\u00e9kk \u00feig til a\u00f0 heg\u00f0a \u00fe\u00e9r svona?“<\/p>\n

\u00deau spyrja, vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00feau hafa \u00feekkt drenginn \u00ed 19 \u00e1r og \u00feau vita a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er vonlaust a\u00f0 \u00e6tla a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a vi\u00f0 hann me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hella s\u00e9r yfir hann. \u00datsk\u00fdringarnar eru sennilega mj\u00f6g vondar og \u00fe\u00e1 er komi\u00f0 a\u00f0 pabba og m\u00f6mmu:<\/p>\n

„\u00deorsteinn, \u00fea\u00f0 er engin afs\u00f6kun \u00fe\u00f3tt hann hafi m\u00f3\u00f0ga\u00f0 \u00feig. Vi\u00f0 erum b\u00fain a\u00f0 heyra l\u00fdsingar \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hvernig andliti\u00f0 \u00e1 honum Sigurj\u00f3ni er \u00fatleiki\u00f0 eftir \u00feig. \u00deorsteinn, \u00fe\u00fa\u00a0lamdir<\/strong>\u00a0mann! \u00dea\u00f0 er bara mildi a\u00f0 hann slapp \u00f3brotinn og hann er alvarlega a\u00f0 \u00edhuga a\u00f0 leggja fram k\u00e6ru. Heldur\u00f0u \u00ed alv\u00f6ru tala\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 ekki a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a t\u00edmab\u00e6rt a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa gerir eitthva\u00f0 \u00ed \u00fe\u00ednum m\u00e1lum?“<\/p>\n

Au\u00f0vita\u00f0 er ekkert v\u00edst a\u00f0 \u00feessi r\u00e6\u00f0a hafi \u00e1hrif. Kannski er \u00deorsteinn f\u00e1rsj\u00fakur alk\u00f3h\u00f3listi og ofbeldisma\u00f0ur og kannski \u00e1 hann eftir a\u00f0 sitja af s\u00e9r marga og langa d\u00f3ma vegna l\u00edkams\u00e1r\u00e1sa\u00a0en<\/strong>\u00a0hann hefur val. Hann \u00e1 \u00feess enn\u00fe\u00e1 kost a\u00f0 horfast \u00ed augu vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfan sig og samf\u00e9lag sem umber ekki heg\u00f0un hans. Hann getur vi\u00f0urkennt vandann, leita\u00f0 s\u00e9r hj\u00e1lpar og fengi\u00f0 fyrirgefningu. Jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt hann ver\u00f0i sakfelldur og sitji af s\u00e9r einn d\u00f3m, \u00e1 hann enn\u00fe\u00e1 kost \u00e1 fyrirgefningu. Hann \u00e1 m\u00f6guleika \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 heg\u00f0un hans ver\u00f0i sko\u00f0u\u00f0 sem merki um sj\u00faklegt \u00e1stand, \u00e1stand sem h\u00e6gt er a\u00f0 binda endi \u00e1.<\/p>\n

\u00cdmyndum okkur svipa\u00f0a senu \u00fear sem ungur ma\u00f0ur rankar vi\u00f0 s\u00e9r eftir samskonar amfetam\u00ednfyllir\u00ed og er krafinn sk\u00fdringa \u00e1 heg\u00f0un sinni. Ekki stendur \u00e1 r\u00e9ttl\u00e6tingum en svar pabba og m\u00f6mmu vi\u00f0 \u00feeim er \u00e1 \u00feessa lei\u00f0:<\/p>\n

„Gu\u00f0j\u00f3n, \u00fea\u00f0 er engin afs\u00f6kun \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fei\u00f0 hafi\u00f0 veri\u00f0 saman \u00e1\u00f0ur. \u00dea\u00f0 eru vitni a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed \u00ed hverskonar \u00e1standi h\u00fan Sigr\u00fan var eftir a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa f\u00f3rst heim \u00ed n\u00f3tt. Gu\u00f0j\u00f3n \u00fe\u00fa f\u00f3rst upp \u00ed r\u00fam til dau\u00f0adrukkinnar st\u00falku og\u00a0nau\u00f0ga\u00f0ir<\/strong>\u00a0henni! \u00dea\u00f0 er bara mildi a\u00f0 h\u00fan s\u00fdndi \u00fe\u00e1 skynsemi a\u00f0 fara ekki a\u00f0 sl\u00e1st vi\u00f0 \u00feig \u00fev\u00ed vi\u00f0 vitum ekki hvernig \u00fea\u00f0 hef\u00f0i fari\u00f0, og h\u00fan er alvarlega a\u00f0 \u00edhuga a\u00f0 leggja fram k\u00e6ru. Heldur\u00f0u \u00ed alv\u00f6ru tala\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 ekki a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a t\u00edmab\u00e6rt a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00fa gerir eitthva\u00f0 \u00ed \u00fe\u00ednum m\u00e1lum?“<\/p>\n

Reyndar er \u00f3tr\u00falegt a\u00f0 \u00feetta samtal fari nokkurn t\u00edma fram. L\u00edklegast er a\u00f0 foreldar Gu\u00f0j\u00f3ns s\u00e9u n\u00fa \u00feegar b\u00fanir a\u00f0 taka \u00fe\u00e1 afst\u00f6\u00f0u a\u00f0 Sigr\u00fan s\u00e9 einfaldlega lygasj\u00fak drusla, \u00fev\u00ed \u00feau \u00feekkja Gu\u00f0j\u00f3n og \u00fe\u00f3tt hann s\u00e9 vissulega erfi\u00f0ur \u00ed samskiptum, er hann ekki hreinr\u00e6kta\u00f0 skr\u00edmsli. \u00deeirra fyrstu vi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0 vi\u00f0 s\u00f6gunni eru a\u00f0 leita allra sk\u00fdringa annarra en \u00feeirrar a\u00f0 sonur \u00feeirra s\u00e9 nau\u00f0gari. H\u00fan var blindfull stelpan og man \u00feetta sennilega ekkert betur en hann. H\u00fan hefur n\u00fa svosem \u00e1tt \u00fea\u00f0 til a\u00f0 m\u00e1la heiminn sterkum litum og \u00fea\u00f0 er andskotinn hafi \u00fea\u00f0 of langt gengi\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00e1saka drenginn um nau\u00f0gun \u00fe\u00f3tt h\u00fan s\u00e9 me\u00f0 \u00feynnkum\u00f3ral eftir a\u00f0 hafa legi\u00f0 undir \u00feremur s\u00f6mu helgina… O.s.frv.<\/p>\n

En setjum n\u00fa samt sem svo a\u00f0 foreldrar Gu\u00f0j\u00f3ns s\u00e9u \u00f3venju v\u00ed\u00f0s\u00fdnt f\u00f3lk. \u00cdmyndum okkur a\u00f0 \u00feau tr\u00fai s\u00f6gu Sigr\u00fanar og hermi \u00feessa heg\u00f0un upp \u00e1 hann; hva\u00f0 \u00e1 Gu\u00f0j\u00f3n \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 gera? \u00c1 hann a\u00f0 vi\u00f0urkenna a\u00f0 hann s\u00e9 NAU\u00d0GARI? Over my dead body, \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki s\u00e9ns \u00ed helv\u00edti. Gu\u00f0j\u00f3n hefur nefnilega lesi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 sem f\u00f3lk segir um nau\u00f0gara \u00e1 netinu. Hann veit hvert vi\u00f0horf almennings er. Hann veit a\u00f0 almennt er tali\u00f0 a\u00f0 menn sem nau\u00f0ga s\u00e9u fullkomlega samviskulausar skepnur, skr\u00edmsli sem ekki er vi\u00f0bjargandi. Menn sem h\u00e6tta bara ekki. Karlar sem hata konur. Menn sem stj\u00f3rnast ekki af kynhv\u00f6t, heldur af l\u00f6ngun til a\u00f0 mei\u00f0a og ni\u00f0url\u00e6gja og svo miki\u00f0 veit Gu\u00f0j\u00f3n a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00f3tt hann hafi kannski gleymt \u00f6llum mannasi\u00f0um, \u00fe\u00e1 var hann n\u00e1tt\u00farulega fyrst og fremst rosalega gra\u00f0ur og Sigr\u00fan var eiginlega b\u00fain a\u00f0 gefa honum vilyr\u00f0i, og hann h\u00e9lt ekki a\u00f0 h\u00fan t\u00e6ki \u00feessu svona og…<\/p>\n

Gu\u00f0j\u00f3n veit l\u00edka alveg hva\u00f0 almenningur vill gera vi\u00f0 nau\u00f0gara. H\u00e9r eru nokkrar hugmyndir sem hafa veri\u00f0 r\u00e6ddar \u00ed netheimum:<\/p>\n

-Skera undan \u00feessu.
\n-Tatt\u00f3vera „n\u00ed\u00f0ingur“ \u00e1 enni\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00feeim.
\n-Fl\u00e1 \u00fe\u00e1 lifandi.
\n-Halda \u00fati s\u00e9rstakri nets\u00ed\u00f0u me\u00f0 n\u00f6fnum \u00feeirra og myndum af \u00feeim.
\n-Gelda \u00feetta bara og loka \u00fea\u00f0 inni upp \u00e1 vatn og brau\u00f0.
\n-Henda \u00feeim fram af \u00d6lfus\u00e1rbr\u00fanni.
\n-H\u00fd\u00f0a \u00fe\u00e1 opinberlega.
\n-Loka \u00fe\u00e1 inni og leyfa \u00feeim a\u00f0 f\u00e1 \u00fatr\u00e1s fyrir vi\u00f0bj\u00f3\u00f0slegar hneig\u00f0ir s\u00ednar me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 nau\u00f0ga hver \u00f6\u00f0rum.
\n-G\u00e1lga \u00e1 Austurv\u00f6ll takk.
\n-\u00c6vilangt fangelsi \u00e1n nokkurs m\u00f6guleika \u00e1 n\u00e1\u00f0un, EVER!
\n-Hengja upp myndir af \u00feeim \u00e1 opinberum st\u00f6\u00f0um.
\n-L\u00e1ta \u00fe\u00e1 koma fram opinberlega og vi\u00f0urkenna a\u00f0 \u00feeir s\u00e9u nau\u00f0garar.
\n-Brenna \u00fe\u00e1 lifandi.
\n-Taka upp \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i.<\/p>\n

\u00deetta eru semsagt lausnirnar sem eru vi\u00f0ra\u00f0ar, og \u00e1 sama t\u00edma \u00e6tlumst vi\u00f0 til \u00feess a\u00f0 ungir piltar sem s\u00fdna st\u00falkum tillitsleysi og d\u00f3naskap e\u00f0a hafa beitt vinkonur s\u00ednar \u00fer\u00fdstingi til a\u00f0 ganga lengra \u00ed kynfer\u00f0isath\u00f6fnum en \u00fe\u00e6r eru tilb\u00fanar til, kannist vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfa sig sem nau\u00f0gara. Aldeilis raunh\u00e6ft markmi\u00f0 e\u00f0a hva\u00f0?<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 er \u00e1fall a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a fyrir ofbeldi \u00ed n\u00e1nu sambandi, jafnvel \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fea\u00f0 ofbeldi gangi ekki a\u00f0 \u00feolandanum h\u00e1lfdau\u00f0um. \u00dea\u00f0 er nau\u00f0synlegt a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r konur sem ver\u00f0a fyrir \u00fev\u00ed f\u00e1i \u00e1heyrn. En ef vi\u00f0 m\u00e1um \u00fat skilin \u00e1 milli hrottalegra l\u00edkams\u00e1r\u00e1sa og \u00fevingana sem eru ekki gr\u00f3fari en svo a\u00f0 hvorugur a\u00f0ilinn er viss um hvort r\u00e9tt s\u00e9 a\u00f0 flokka \u00fea\u00f0 sem ofbeldi, \u00fe\u00e1 erum vi\u00f0 um lei\u00f0 a\u00f0 loka \u00e1 m\u00f6guleika gerenda sem hafa beitt mj\u00f6g v\u00e6gri tegund kynfer\u00f0isofbeldis, til \u00feess a\u00f0 horfast \u00ed augu vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfa sig, hva\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 j\u00e1ta heg\u00f0un s\u00edna fyrir \u00f6\u00f0rum.<\/p>\n

Kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi ver\u00f0ur ekki uppr\u00e6tt me\u00f0 hatri, \u00fatsk\u00fafun, v\u00ed\u00f0ari skilgreiningum \u00e1 nau\u00f0gunum og \u00feyngri d\u00f3mum. \u00dea\u00f0 er hinsvegar hugsanlegt a\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vi\u00f0urkenna \u00fevinganir og a\u00f0ra \u00f3\u00feolandi kynheg\u00f0un sem heg\u00f0unarvandam\u00e1l fremur en merki um \u00f3n\u00fdtan pers\u00f3nuleika, me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 spyrja „hva\u00f0 ger\u00f0ist \u00ed hausunum \u00e1 \u00fe\u00e9r“ frekar en a\u00f0 hr\u00f3pa „\u00fe\u00fa ert vi\u00f0bj\u00f3\u00f0ur!“ ver\u00f0i h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 f\u00e1 unga menn til a\u00f0 hugsa sinn gang, \u00e1\u00f0ur en \u00feeir valda einhverri st\u00falkunni \u00f3b\u00e6tanlegu tj\u00f3ni.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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