{"id":844,"date":"2011-10-28T11:25:35","date_gmt":"2011-10-28T11:25:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.norn.is\/kyndillinn\/?p=844"},"modified":"2017-09-08T14:58:50","modified_gmt":"2017-09-08T14:58:50","slug":"drottnunaradferdir-feminista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.norn.is\/kyndillinn\/drottnunaradferdir-feminista\/","title":{"rendered":"Drottnunara\u00f0fer\u00f0ir feminista"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"save-us-from-saviors\"<\/a>S\u00f3ley T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttir hefur \u00e1\u00f0ur vaki\u00f0 athygli \u00e1 a\u00f0fer\u00f0um sem nota\u00f0ar eru til a\u00f0 gera l\u00edti\u00f0 \u00far m\u00e1lflutningi kvenna og gerir \u00fea\u00f0 n\u00fa enn og aftur<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u00deetta er \u00fe\u00f6rf lesning og s\u00e9rstaklega er athyglisvert a\u00f0 sko\u00f0a hvernig feministar v\u00ed\u00f0a um heim hafa beitt \u00feessum a\u00f0fer\u00f0um gegn \u00feeim konum sem eru \u00f3samm\u00e1la \u00feeim e\u00f0a gagnr\u00fdna a\u00f0ger\u00f0ir \u00feeirra. \u00cd lj\u00f3si umr\u00e6\u00f0u sem \u00e1tt hefur s\u00e9r sta\u00f0 s\u00ed\u00f0ustu vikuna, er vi\u00f0 h\u00e6fi a\u00f0 sko\u00f0a hvernig \u00feessum a\u00f0fer\u00f0um er beitt \u00ed umr\u00e6\u00f0unni um v\u00e6ndi.<\/p>\n

1. A\u00f0 gera f\u00f3lk \u00f3s\u00fdnilegt
\n<\/strong>Hj\u00e1 feminstum gengur \u00feetta svo langt a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r l\u00e1ta s\u00e9r ekki n\u00e6gja a\u00f0 hundsa m\u00e1lflutning frj\u00e1lsra kvenna \u00ed kynl\u00edfs\u00fej\u00f3nustu, heldur er tilvist \u00feeirra afneita\u00f0. Sta\u00f0h\u00e6ft, \u00fer\u00e1tt fyrir sk\u00fdrar sannanir um allt annan veruleika a\u00f0 engin kona velji s\u00e9r v\u00e6ndi a\u00f0 atvinnu. Auk \u00feess er gengi\u00f0 fram hj\u00e1 f\u00f3lki \u00ed \u00feessum st\u00f6rfum \u00feegar fjalla\u00f0 er um m\u00e1lefni \u00feess \u00e1 opinberum vettvangi.<\/p>\n

Ranns\u00f3knir \u00e1 v\u00e6ndismarka\u00f0num sni\u00f0ganga i\u00f0ulega h\u00e1tekjukonur \u00ed kynl\u00edfs\u00fej\u00f3nustu, svo sem fylgdard\u00f6mur og sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6tt starfandi „call-girls“ sem og millist\u00e9ttarkonur sem vinna \u00e1 tilt\u00f6lulega snyrtilegum v\u00e6ndish\u00fasum, nuddstofum og strippst\u00f6\u00f0um. L\u00e1ti\u00f0 er l\u00edta \u00fat fyrir a\u00f0 hin \u00f6murlegasta mynd g\u00f6tuv\u00e6ndis s\u00e9 sannleikurinn \u00ed hnotskurn, hinar eru einfaldlega ekki til.<\/p>\n

2. A\u00f0 gera f\u00f3lk hl\u00e6gilegt
\n<\/strong>H\u00e9r er \u00e1hugavert a\u00f0 sko\u00f0a hugtaki\u00f0 „hamingjusama h\u00f3ran“. \u00deegar r\u00e6tt er um sj\u00f3menn, byggingarverkfr\u00e6\u00f0inga og t\u00edskuh\u00f6nnu\u00f0i, \u00feykir sjaldan \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0a til a\u00f0 velta \u00fev\u00ed fyrir s\u00e9r hvort \u00feetta f\u00f3lk er hamingjusamt e\u00f0ur ei. Hvort sem tiltekin st\u00f6rf eru samf\u00e9laginu l\u00edfsnau\u00f0synleg e\u00f0a eitthva\u00f0 sem flokka m\u00e1 sem h\u00e9g\u00f3ma, sn\u00fdst umr\u00e6\u00f0an um f\u00f3lk \u00ed \u00feessum st\u00f6rfum um launakj\u00f6r \u00feess, \u00f6ryggi og vinnua\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0ur. Jafnvel \u00feegar \u00feetta er allt saman \u00f3vi\u00f0unandi, felst lausnin \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 b\u00e6ta \u00far \u00fev\u00ed. Ekki er einu sinni inni \u00ed myndinni a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 uppr\u00e6ta starfsemina me\u00f0 \u00feeim r\u00f6kum a\u00f0 hamingjusamir sj\u00f3menn s\u00e9u ekki til enda er fullor\u00f0nu f\u00f3lki almennt treyst til \u00feess a\u00f0 meta \u00fea\u00f0 sj\u00e1lft hvort starfs\u00e1n\u00e6gja \u00feess s\u00e9 n\u00f3gu mikil til a\u00f0 halda \u00e1fram \u00ed s\u00f6mu vinnu. \u00cd \u00f6llum \u00f6\u00f0rum greinum en kl\u00e1mi og kynl\u00edfs\u00fej\u00f3nustu er tali\u00f0 e\u00f0lilegt a\u00f0 f\u00f3lki lei\u00f0ist stundum \u00ed vinnunni og eigi jafnvel af og til \u00f6murlega daga.<\/p>\n

Hugtaki\u00f0 „hamingjusama h\u00f3ran“ er ekki komi\u00f0 fr\u00e1 \u00feeim sem vinna vi\u00f0 kynl\u00edfs\u00fej\u00f3nustu, heldur \u00feeim sem vilja gera l\u00edti\u00f0 \u00far \u00feeirri hugmynd a\u00f0 nokkur vilji vinna jafn \u00f3merkilegt starf. H\u00f3ra sem segist vera \u00e1n\u00e6g\u00f0 me\u00f0 sitt hlutskipti er ekki markt\u00e6k, h\u00fan er hl\u00e6gileg, \u00ed sk\u00e1rsta falli f\u00f3rnarlamb vondra karla sem eru b\u00fanir a\u00f0 heila\u00fevo hana.\u00a0 Sko\u00f0anir hennar byggja \u00e1 svo l\u00edtilv\u00e6gum \u00fe\u00e1ttum sem afkomu hennar og sj\u00e1lfs\u00e1kv\u00f6r\u00f0unarr\u00e9tti. Aflei\u00f0ingarnar af \u00feessari drottnunara\u00f0fer\u00f0 eru \u00fe\u00e6r s\u00f6mu fyrir h\u00f3rur og a\u00f0rar konur, \u00fe\u00e6r eru tregar til a\u00f0 r\u00e6\u00f0a vi\u00f0horf s\u00edn \u00e1 opinberum vettvangi og skyldi nokkurn undra?<\/p>\n

3. A\u00f0 leyna uppl\u00fdsingum
\n<\/strong>\u00deegar feministar fjalla um kl\u00e1m- og kynl\u00edfsi\u00f0na\u00f0inn, l\u00e1ta \u00feeir s\u00e9r ekki n\u00e6gja a\u00f0 leyna uppl\u00fdsingum heldur ganga \u00feeir svo langt a\u00f0 falsa sta\u00f0reyndir. Bulli\u00f0, \u00fdmist afrakstur „ranns\u00f3kna“ sem sni\u00f0ganga v\u00edsindalegar a\u00f0fer\u00f0ir e\u00f0a bara hreinn og kl\u00e1r uppspuni, er svo sett fram \u00ed formi sk\u00fdrslna e\u00f0a fr\u00e6\u00f0irita og fjalla\u00f0 um \u00fea\u00f0 sem v\u00edsindi, sta\u00f0reyndir og ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0ur ranns\u00f3kna. \u00c9g hef \u00ed fyrri pistlum bent \u00e1 \u00fdmis d\u00e6mi sem rata\u00f0 hafa inn \u00ed \u00edslenska fj\u00f6lmi\u00f0la. Einnig bendi \u00e9g \u00feeim sem \u00e1huga hafa \u00e1 \u00fdkjum feminista \u00e1 a\u00f0 kynna s\u00e9r b\u00f3k Christinu Hoff Sommers, „<a href=“http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Who-Stole-Feminism-Women-Betrayed\/dp\/0684801566″>Who Stole Feminism<\/a>“ \u00fear sem m.a. er fjalla\u00f0 um nokkur sl\u00e1andi d\u00e6mi um sta\u00f0reyndafalsanir.<\/p>\n

4. Tv\u00f6f\u00f6ld refsing
\n<\/strong>S\u00e9 einhverjum legi\u00f0 \u00e1 h\u00e1lsi fyrir val sitt og forgangsr\u00f6\u00f0un \u00ed l\u00edfinu, \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00fea\u00f0 h\u00f3ran. Einkum eru \u00fea\u00f0 millist\u00e9ttarmellunar sem \u00fearf a\u00f0 refsa. \u00deessar sem eru n\u00f3gu vel a\u00f0 s\u00e9r til a\u00f0 \u00feora a\u00f0 tala, \u00feessar sem eru\u00a0 a\u00f0 reyna a\u00f0 ey\u00f0ileggja \u00fe\u00e1 heil\u00f6gu hugmynd a\u00f0 karlmenn s\u00e9u einfaldlega \u00f3ge\u00f0. \u00de\u00e6r eru a\u00f0 v\u00edsu eins og allar a\u00f0rar mellur, \u00ed raun og veru f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mb. Vorkunnarver\u00f0 grey sem innst inni vilja alls ekki vera svona miklar druslur og hef\u00f0u aldrei teki\u00f0 sl\u00edka \u00e1kv\u00f6r\u00f0un nema af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 einhver illmenni voru b\u00fain a\u00f0 nau\u00f0ga \u00feeim og taka \u00fear me\u00f0 fr\u00e1 \u00feeim alla sj\u00e1lfsvir\u00f0ingu (en eins og allir vita er sj\u00e1lfsvir\u00f0ing kvenna sta\u00f0sett \u00ed p\u00edkunni) sem og h\u00e6fileikann til a\u00f0 hugsa sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6tt.<\/p>\n

Millist\u00e9ttarmellurnar eru a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed leyti verri en hinar druslunar a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r eru ekki bara f\u00e1rsj\u00fak f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mb heldur eru \u00fe\u00e6r \u00ed \u00feokkab\u00f3t n\u00f3gu gr\u00e1\u00f0ugar til a\u00f0 berjast fyrir r\u00e9tti s\u00ednum. \u00dear me\u00f0 eru \u00fe\u00e6r ekki bara ge\u00f0veikar heldur til vi\u00f0b\u00f3tar eigingjarnar og skeytingarlausar um allar \u00fe\u00e6r millj\u00f3nir kvenna sem \u00fer\u00e1 ekkert heitar en a\u00f0 \u00feeim ver\u00f0i gert \u00f3f\u00e6rt a\u00f0 framfleyta s\u00e9r.<\/p>\n

Gle\u00f0ikonan stendur frammi fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 engin \u00e1kv\u00f6r\u00f0un sem h\u00fan tekur er r\u00e9tt. Ef h\u00fan h\u00e6ttir, er eina t\u00e6ka sk\u00fdringin s\u00fa a\u00f0 l\u00edf \u00ed v\u00e6ndi s\u00e9 \u00f3b\u00e6rilegt. \u00cd tilviki h\u00f3runnar er \u00fatiloka\u00f0 a\u00f0 h\u00fan hafi bara or\u00f0i\u00f0 lei\u00f0 \u00e1 starfinu og \u00feessvegna leita\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00f6nnur mi\u00f0 eins og hendir f\u00f3lk \u00ed \u00f6llum st\u00f6rfum. F\u00f3rnarlambsstimpillinn mun alltaf lo\u00f0a vi\u00f0 hana. Ef h\u00fan \u00e1kve\u00f0ur a\u00f0 halda \u00e1fram er \u00fea\u00f0 l\u00edka merki um a\u00f0 h\u00fan s\u00e9 f\u00f3rnarlamb, \u00fe\u00e1 er h\u00fan svo rosalega sj\u00fak a\u00f0 h\u00fan bara kemst ekki \u00fat \u00far \u00feessu. Ef h\u00fan m\u00f3tm\u00e6lir stigmanu og fr\u00e1bi\u00f0ur s\u00e9r afskipti bjargv\u00e6ttanna, er h\u00fan of skemmd til a\u00f0 vita hva\u00f0 er henni fyrir bestu e\u00f0a \u00ed sk\u00e1rsta falli a\u00f0 sv\u00edkja einhvern heilagan m\u00e1lsta\u00f0 sem h\u00fan \u00fe\u00f3 hefur ekki svari\u00f0 neina hollustu. Ef h\u00fan \u00feiggur hj\u00e1lp er h\u00fan lifandi s\u00f6nnun \u00feess a\u00f0 allar mellur s\u00e9u f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mb sem \u00feurfi \u00e1 afmellunarme\u00f0fer\u00f0 feminista a\u00f0 halda og h\u00fan er svo fengin til a\u00f0 vitna um reynslu s\u00edna \u00ed dv, \u00fear sem dregin er upp mynd af algerum aumingja sem hefur floti\u00f0 sofandi a\u00f0 feig\u00f0ar\u00f3si og hefur enga stj\u00f3rn \u00e1 s\u00ednu eigin l\u00edfi.<\/p>\n

5. A\u00f0 framkalla sk\u00f6mm og sektarkennd
\n<\/strong>Sennilega er f\u00e1tt betur til \u00feess falli\u00f0 a\u00f0 framkalla sk\u00f6mm og sektarkennd hj\u00e1 f\u00f3lki en \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 setja l\u00f6g sem fela \u00ed s\u00e9r \u00fe\u00e1 hugmynd a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 \u00f3sj\u00e1lfr\u00e1tt gj\u00f6r\u00f0a sinna. \u00c1 sama h\u00e1tt og \u00fea\u00f0 er hinn fullor\u00f0ni sem ber \u00e1byrg\u00f0ina \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 eiga m\u00f6k vi\u00f0 barn, er \u00fea\u00f0 vi\u00f0skiptavinurinn sem ber \u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 konan selur bl\u00ed\u00f0u s\u00edna. Konan er, eins og barni\u00f0, \u00f3\u00e1byrg, \u00f3f\u00e6r um a\u00f0 taka \u00e1byrg\u00f0 \u00e1 eigin kynheg\u00f0un. H\u00fan er ekki gerandi \u00ed eigin l\u00edfi, heldur vi\u00f0fang. Vir\u00f0ingarsta\u00f0a hennar er s\u00fa sama og grunnsk\u00f3labarns. \u00dea\u00f0 er \u00f3\u00fearfi a\u00f0 spyrja hana \u00e1lits, bjargv\u00e6ttirnar tala um hana en ekki vi\u00f0 hana, \u00e1kve\u00f0a hva\u00f0 er henni fyrir bestu \u00e1n samr\u00e1\u00f0s vi\u00f0 hana. H\u00fan er stimplu\u00f0:<\/p>\n