{"id":561,"date":"2010-06-30T23:06:13","date_gmt":"2010-06-30T23:06:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.norn.is\/kyndillinn\/?p=561"},"modified":"2017-09-11T11:39:21","modified_gmt":"2017-09-11T11:39:21","slug":"krusipusi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.norn.is\/kyndillinn\/krusipusi\/","title":{"rendered":"Kr\u00fas\u00edp\u00fas\u00ed"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\"kr\u00fas\u00ed\"<\/a>
\nKarlremba er l\u00famskt fyrirb\u00e6ri. H\u00fan kemur ekki endilega fram \u00ed fyrirlitningu \u00e1 konum e\u00f0a illri framkomu vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r, heldur oftar \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 karlar tala ni\u00f0ur til okkar \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 gera s\u00e9r grein fyrir \u00fev\u00ed og \u00ed fullkomlega g\u00f3\u00f0ri tr\u00fa.\u00deeir geta t.d. me\u00f0 \u00e1kve\u00f0inni a\u00f0d\u00e1un, gefi\u00f0 til kynna a\u00f0 konur s\u00e9u eftirb\u00e1tar karla, \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 meina neitt illt me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed. \u00deetta hlj\u00f3mar kannski \u00feversagnarkennt en kannski \u00e1tta einhverjir sig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 \u00e9g \u00e1 vi\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 sko\u00f0a or\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0u fullor\u00f0inna gagnvart b\u00f6rnum.<\/p>\n

\u00deegar barn s\u00fdnir merki um a\u00f0 vera hugsandi vera f\u00e6r \u00fea\u00f0 yfirleitt hr\u00f3s. \u00dea\u00f0 f\u00e6r hinsvegar ekki \u00e1heyrn. \u00dea\u00f0 f\u00e6r ekki athygli fyrir \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00fea\u00f0 er a\u00f0 f\u00e1st vi\u00f0 \u00e1 s\u00ednum eigin forsendum, heldur byggist a\u00f0d\u00e1unin \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hversu vel barninu tekst a\u00f0 l\u00edkja eftir hinum fullor\u00f0nu.<\/p>\n

L\u00edtil telpa flytur r\u00e6\u00f0u opinberlega og fullor\u00f0na f\u00f3lki\u00f0 horfir gapandi af a\u00f0d\u00e1un \u00e1 barni\u00f0 sem hefur kjark til a\u00f0 standa fyrir framan f\u00f3lk og segja sko\u00f0anir s\u00ednar e\u00f0a bara yfirh\u00f6fu\u00f0 a\u00f0 segja eitthva\u00f0. Umr\u00e6\u00f0an sn\u00fdst hinsvegar ekki um \u00fea\u00f0 hva\u00f0 st\u00falkan hefur a\u00f0 segja heldur um aldur hennar og \u00fea\u00f0 hva\u00f0 h\u00fan s\u00e9 n\u00fa miki\u00f0 rassgatakr\u00fatt. \u00deegar Dagur B. Eggertsson st\u00edgur \u00ed r\u00e6\u00f0ust\u00f3l, dettur hinsvegar ekki nokkrum manni \u00ed hug a\u00f0 hafa or\u00f0 \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 hann s\u00e9 n\u00fa mikill sn\u00falli, \u00fe\u00f3tt hann s\u00e9 vissulega me\u00f0 laglegri m\u00f6nnum.<\/p>\n

\u00deegar litlir drengir stofna hlj\u00f3msveit f\u00e6r t\u00f3nlist \u00feeirra litla athygli en f\u00f3lk missir \u00fevag og slefar yfir \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 \u00feeir s\u00e9u duglegir og miklir kr\u00fasid\u00fallut\u00f6ffarar. Hvort \u00feeir eru upprennandi listamenn er ekki a\u00f0alatri\u00f0i\u00f0 heldur hva\u00f0 \u00feeir eru mikir d\u00fallusn\u00fallar a\u00f0 l\u00edta svo j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0um augum \u00e1 framt\u00ed\u00f0 s\u00edna, svo ungir. Yfirleitt eru listamenn svo tekir alvarlega \u00feegar \u00feeir vaxa \u00far grasi en kynfer\u00f0i og \u00fatlit hefur \u00fe\u00f3 undarleg \u00e1hrif. A\u00f0eins 10 \u00e1ra a\u00f0 aldri var Bj\u00f6rk Gu\u00f0mundsd\u00f3ttir or\u00f0in listama\u00f0ur sem full \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0a var til a\u00f0 taka alvarlega en \u00fe\u00f3tt h\u00fan s\u00e9 komin \u00e1 fimmtugsaldur og sennilega \u00feekkasti og virtasti, \u00edslenski listama\u00f0ur allra t\u00edma, lo\u00f0ir d\u00fallu\u00edmyndin enn a\u00f0 einhverju leyti vi\u00f0 hana. H\u00fan er kona og hefur \u00e1 einhvern h\u00e1tt barnslegt yfirbrag\u00f0 og s\u00fa sta\u00f0reynd vir\u00f0ist skipta n\u00e6stum jafn miklu m\u00e1li og listsk\u00f6pun hennar.<\/p>\n

\u00cd s\u00ed\u00f0ustu viku f\u00e6r\u00f0u nokkrar framtakssamar telpur borgarsj\u00f3\u00f0i gj\u00f6f til kaupa \u00e1 hv\u00edtabirni fyrir H\u00fasd\u00fdragar\u00f0inn. \u00de\u00e6r h\u00f6f\u00f0u haldi\u00f0 tomb\u00f3lu og safna\u00f0 um 15.000 kr\u00f3num. Umr\u00e6\u00f0an \u00e1 facebook sn\u00fdst \u00f6ll um \u00fea\u00f0 hva\u00f0 \u00feessar telpur s\u00e9u mikil kr\u00fatt og sn\u00fallur. Ekki um \u00fea\u00f0 hvort d\u00fdrafangelsi s\u00e9u yfirh\u00f6fu\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0 hugmynd e\u00f0a hvort v\u00e6ri h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 gle\u00f0ja b\u00f6rn \u00e1 einhvern ge\u00f0slegri h\u00e1tt en \u00feann a\u00f0 koma bjarnd\u00fdri fyrir \u00ed H\u00fasd\u00fdragar\u00f0inum. Ekki um \u00fea\u00f0 hvernig megi virkja framtakssemi og \u00e1str\u00ed\u00f0u barna \u00ed \u00fe\u00e1gu skemmtilegra borgarl\u00edfs, d\u00fdraverndar e\u00f0a einhvers annars ver\u00f0ugs m\u00e1lefnis. Ekki um \u00fea\u00f0 hvort hugsast geti a\u00f0 m\u00f6rg b\u00f6rn b\u00fai yfir hugmyndum og dugna\u00f0i sem er \u00e1 einhvern h\u00e1tt b\u00e6ldur ni\u00f0ur. Nei, \u00fea\u00f0 er kr\u00fattleiki barna sem gera eitthva\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6tt og taka af eigin frumkv\u00e6\u00f0i einhver skref til a\u00f0 f\u00e1 vilja s\u00ednum framgegnt sem er til umr\u00e6\u00f0u. Fullor\u00f0nar konur sem leggja \u00e1 sig sj\u00e1lfbo\u00f0astarf eru hinsvegar ekki kr\u00fatt heldur dygg\u00f0um pr\u00fdddar hugsj\u00f3nakonur.<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 m\u00e1 kannski vir\u00f0a fullor\u00f0nu f\u00f3lki \u00fea\u00f0 til vorkunnar a\u00f0 b\u00f6rn eru minnim\u00e1ttar. \u00deau geta sjaldan b\u00e6tt neinu merkilegu vi\u00f0 vitneskju okkar, h\u00e6fileikar \u00feeirra eru \u00f3\u00feroska\u00f0ir og hugmyndir \u00feeirra bera oft meiri vott um \u00e1str\u00ed\u00f0u en skynsemi. \u00dea\u00f0 afsakar ekki \u00feessa endalausu kr\u00fattumr\u00e6\u00f0u en \u00fea\u00f0 sk\u00fdrir hana a\u00f0 einhverju leyti. Hinsvegar er f\u00e1tt sem bendir til \u00feess konur s\u00e9u neinir eftirb\u00e1tar karla \u00e1 andlega svi\u00f0inu. Vi\u00f0 erum l\u00edkast til ekkert vitlausari en karlar e\u00f0a vanh\u00e6fari til a\u00f0 tj\u00e1 okkur. Samt sem \u00e1\u00f0ur er \u00fea\u00f0 svo a\u00f0 \u00feegar karlar sem telja karlkyni\u00f0 kvenkyninu \u00e6\u00f0ra, tala um konur, s\u00e9r ma\u00f0ur svipa\u00f0a tihneigingu og \u00feegar fullor\u00f0nir tala um b\u00f6rn. \u00dev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur s\u00e9r ma\u00f0ur \u00feessa tilhneigingu l\u00edka hj\u00e1 jafnr\u00e9ttissinnu\u00f0um k\u00f6rlum og hj\u00e1 konum \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00ed minna m\u00e6li s\u00e9, svo l\u00famsk er h\u00fan helvitis karlremban.<\/p>\n

Konur geta vissulega gert jafn mikilv\u00e6ga hluti og karlar en oft, allt of oft, sn\u00fdst umr\u00e6\u00f0an a\u00f0 nokkru leyti um kynfer\u00f0i og kr\u00fattleika \u00feegar konur eiga \u00ed hlut. \u00c9g hef \u00feessa reynslu sj\u00e1lf. \u00deegar karlar gefa eitthva\u00f0 \u00fat \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00e9g skrifa e\u00f0a segi um samf\u00e9lagsm\u00e1l, fylgir \u00fev\u00ed oftar en ekki einhver athugasemd um \u00fatlit mitt og m\u00e1 \u00fe\u00e1 einu gilda hvort karlinn er m\u00e9r samm\u00e1la e\u00f0a \u00f3samm\u00e1la. \u00cd hvert einasta skipti sem mynd hefur birst af m\u00e9r \u00ed f\u00f6lmi\u00f0lum, hef \u00e9g fengi\u00f0 einhverjar athugasemdir um \u00fatlit mitt. Oftast eitthva\u00f0 \u00e1 bor\u00f0 vi\u00f0 ‘\u00fe\u00fa komst \u00feessu vel fr\u00e1 \u00fe\u00e9r og svo leistu l\u00edka vel \u00fat’ e\u00f0a ‘\u00e9g er alveg samm\u00e1la \u00fe\u00e9r en m\u00e9r fannst myndin ekki n\u00f3gu g\u00f3\u00f0.’ \u00dea\u00f0 er \u00ed sj\u00e1lfu s\u00e9r ekkert a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 segja svona. \u00deetta er ekkert lj\u00f3tt e\u00f0a m\u00f3\u00f0gandi og \u00e9g hef aldrei teki\u00f0 \u00feessu sem \u00f6\u00f0ru en hr\u00f3si en mig rennir \u00ed grun a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 sem skiptir m\u00e1li \u00ed huga karlrembunnar s\u00e9 ekki \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00e9g segi, heldur a\u00f0 kona og \u00fe\u00e1 s\u00e9rstaklega sm\u00e1vaxin kona skuli st\u00edga fram og r\u00edfa kjaft. \u00dea\u00f0 er eitthva\u00f0 svo kr\u00fattlegt. Svona eins og \u00feegar litlar sn\u00fallur halda a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r geti fengi\u00f0 \u00edsbj\u00f6rn me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 halda tomb\u00f3lu.<\/p>\n

Str\u00e1kar, hugsi\u00f0 \u00fat \u00ed \u00feetta \u00ed alv\u00f6ru. Flestum konum finnst gaman a\u00f0 vera \u00e1litnar s\u00e6tar og vi\u00f0 viljum gjarnan a\u00f0 \u00fei\u00f0 d\u00e1ist a\u00f0 okkur. Hinsvegar viljum vi\u00f0 l\u00edka a\u00f0 \u00fei\u00f0 hlusti\u00f0 \u00e1 okkur og vir\u00f0i\u00f0 sj\u00f3narmi\u00f0 okkar. Haldi\u00f0 \u00e1fram a\u00f0 g\u00f3na \u00e1 brj\u00f3stin \u00e1 okkur og fara \u00e1 l\u00edmingunum yfir \u00fev\u00ed hva\u00f0 vi\u00f0 erum kr\u00fattlegar, endilega. En pr\u00f3fi\u00f0 samt l\u00edka af og til a\u00f0 loka augunum og opna eyrun. Pr\u00f3fi\u00f0 af og til a\u00f0 velta \u00fev\u00ed fyrir ykkur hvort svari\u00f0 sem \u00fei\u00f0 gefi\u00f0 konunni v\u00e6ri vi\u00f0eigandi ef \u00fei\u00f0 v\u00e6ru\u00f0 a\u00f0 tala vi\u00f0 karlmann.<\/p>\n