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\u00c9g er l\u00f6ngu b\u00fain a\u00f0 koma m\u00e9r upp kr\u00f3nisku ofn\u00e6mi gegn \u00fev\u00ed\u00ad vi\u00f0horfi a\u00f0 l\u00f6ngun einhleypra til a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a s\u00e9r \u00fati um maka eigi a\u00f0 vera feimnism\u00e1l. Vitanlega eru \u00feeir til sem kj\u00f3sa a\u00f0 vera einir en \u00e9g hef enga tr\u00fa \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 allir sem b\u00faa einir geri \u00fea\u00f0 af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00feeim finnist \u00fea\u00f0 gaman. \u00dea\u00f0 er allavega mj\u00f6g skr\u00fdti\u00f0 hve oft f\u00f3lk segist vera h\u00e6st\u00e1n\u00e6gt me\u00f0 a\u00f0 b\u00faa eitt en er svo komi\u00f0 \u00ed samb\u00fa\u00f0 m\u00e1nu\u00f0i s\u00ed\u00f0ar.<\/p>\n
Ef kona l\u00fdsir yfir l\u00f6ngun til a\u00f0 eignast maka, \u00e9g tala n\u00fa ekki um ef h\u00fan augl\u00fdsir e\u00f0a s\u00fdnir \u00e1 annan h\u00e1tt vi\u00f0leitni til a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a s\u00e9r \u00fati um einn sl\u00edkan, \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00fea\u00f0 t\u00falka\u00f0 sem „\u00f6rv\u00e6nting“ og \u00feykir ekki par k\u00falt. Sama f\u00f3lki\u00f0 og skammar mig fyrir a\u00f0 vera \u00f6rv\u00e6ntingarfull, af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e9g ver\u00f0 e\u00f0lilega einmana \u00feegar mig skortir f\u00e9lagsskap, tilfinningatengsl og kynl\u00edf, hefur samt fulla sam\u00fa\u00f0 me\u00f0 einmana sj\u00f3mannsfr\u00fam. \u00de\u00e6r eru einmana af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r eiga r\u00e9tt \u00e1 n\u00e6rveru, \u00e1st\u00fa\u00f0 og sam\u00e1byrg\u00f0 makans. \u00c9g \u00e1 hins vegar a\u00f0 vera t\u00f6ff, v\u00e6ntanlega af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e9g hef ekki \u00e1unni\u00f0 m\u00e9r \u00feennan r\u00e9tt me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 til \u00feess a\u00f0 s\u00e1 eini sanni ver\u00f0i \u00e1stfanginn af m\u00e9r.<\/p>\n
Sama f\u00f3lki\u00f0 og finnst \u00fea\u00f0 bera vott um veiklyndi a\u00f0 fara \u00e1 st\u00fafana gagngert til a\u00f0 leita uppi heppilegan maka, fer svo sj\u00e1lft \u00e1 fullt a\u00f0 leita s\u00e9r a\u00f0 h\u00fasn\u00e6\u00f0i, \u00feremur m\u00e1nu\u00f0um \u00e1\u00f0ur en leigusamningurinn rennur \u00fat.<\/p>\n
\u00c9g hef aldrei skili\u00f0 hvernig f\u00f3lk kemst a\u00f0 \u00feeirri ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0u a\u00f0 draumaprinsinn muni birtast \u00feegar \u00e9g h\u00e6tti a\u00f0 leita. (\u00deess m\u00e1 geta a\u00f0 hann hefur hreint ekki reki\u00f0 \u00e1 fj\u00f6rur m\u00ednar \u00feau t\u00edmabil sem \u00e9g hef ekki veri\u00f0 \u00ed sl\u00edkum huglei\u00f0ingum.) Enginn hefur nokkurnt\u00edma sagt m\u00e9r a\u00f0 \u00e9g f\u00e1i g\u00f3\u00f0a vinnu e\u00f0a gott h\u00fasn\u00e6\u00f0i \u00feegar \u00e9g h\u00e6tti a\u00f0 leita a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed, e\u00f0a a\u00f0 \u00e9g kynnist helst skemmtilegu f\u00f3lki me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 for\u00f0ast leikf\u00e9l\u00f6g, sundlaugar, part\u00fd, menningarsamkomur og annan vettvang \u00fear sem f\u00f3lk kemur saman til a\u00f0 skemmta s\u00e9r.<\/p>\n
Leiti\u00f0 og \u00fe\u00e9r munu\u00f0 finna, er hi\u00f0 almenna vi\u00f0horf en ef ma\u00f0ur er \u00ed makaleit eiga allt \u00f6nnur l\u00f6gm\u00e1l a\u00f0 gilda. Kona sem er \u00e1 lausu gegn vilja s\u00ednum, m\u00e1 ekki undir nokkrum kringumst\u00e6\u00f0um vi\u00f0urkenna e\u00f0a s\u00fdna \u00feess merki a\u00f0 h\u00fan s\u00e9 einmana e\u00f0a kynfer\u00f0islega \u00f3fulln\u00e6g\u00f0, hva\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 h\u00fan s\u00e9 jafnvel til \u00ed skyndikynni. H\u00fan m\u00e1 ekki s\u00fdna karlm\u00f6nnum of mikinn \u00e1huga, \u00fev\u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 \u00e1 a\u00f0 hrekja \u00fe\u00e1 \u00ed burtu, \u00fdmist vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00feeir \u00f3ttist skuldbindingar e\u00f0a af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 \u00ed andst\u00f6\u00f0u vi\u00f0 vei\u00f0imannse\u00f0li \u00feeirra a\u00f0 \u00feurfa ekki a\u00f0 hafa frumkv\u00e6\u00f0i\u00f0. H\u00e9r er \u00e1tt vi\u00f0 hi\u00f0 villta vei\u00f0imannse\u00f0li m\u00f6mmudrengja sem aldrei hafa skoti\u00f0 rj\u00fapu e\u00f0a veitt lax. H\u00fan \u00e1 meira a\u00f0 segja a\u00f0 vera \u00e1n\u00e6g\u00f0 me\u00f0 a\u00f0st\u00e6\u00f0ur s\u00ednar af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 er \u00f3raunh\u00e6ft a\u00f0 krefjast \u00feess a\u00f0 a\u00f0rir geri hana hamingjusama, h\u00fan \u00e1 a\u00f0 finna s\u00edna hamingju sj\u00e1lf.<\/p>\n
Hv\u00edl\u00edkt bull. Au\u00f0vita\u00f0 gerir anna\u00f0 f\u00f3lk mann hamingjusaman. Peningar l\u00edka. Hvorki f\u00e9lagsskapur n\u00e9 efnisleg g\u00e6\u00f0i geta uppr\u00e6tt allar \u00fe\u00e6r sorgir sem herja \u00e1 mannss\u00e1lina og \u00fea\u00f0 er \u00f3sanngjarnt a\u00f0 \u00e6tla \u00f6\u00f0rum a\u00f0 leysa vandam\u00e1l sem eru manns eigin. Samt sem \u00e1\u00f0ur eru efnislegt og tilfinningalegt \u00f6ryggi og samf\u00e9lag vi\u00f0 a\u00f0rar mannverur nokkrar af mikilv\u00e6gustu forsendum \u00feess a\u00f0 ma\u00f0ur gle\u00f0jist og s\u00e1 sem lifir gle\u00f0isnau\u00f0u l\u00edfi getur ekki tekist \u00e1 vi\u00f0 \u00f3hamingjuna sem fylgir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vera manneskja.<\/p>\n
\u00c9g hef aldrei, \u00e9g endutek aldrei, fengi\u00f0 neinn hlj\u00f3mgrunn \u00feegar \u00e9g hef l\u00fdst \u00feessum sko\u00f0unum m\u00ednum. Allt \u00e1 \u00feetta a\u00f0 benda til „\u00f6rv\u00e6ntingar“, l\u00e9legrar sj\u00e1lfsmyndar, \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00e9g s\u00e9 ekki sj\u00e1lfri m\u00e9r n\u00e6g, vandl\u00e6tis og kr\u00f6fuh\u00f6rku (af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e9g vil ekki sofa hj\u00e1 heimskingjum og gamalmennum og get ekki hugsa\u00f0 m\u00e9r a\u00f0 b\u00faa me\u00f0 \u00f3virkum alka e\u00f0a manni sem er atvinnulaus a\u00f0 e\u00f0lisfari) og umfram allt \u00f3h\u00f3flegrar kynhvatar. Giftar konur hafa hva\u00f0 eftir anna\u00f0 spurt mig (flissandi eins og sm\u00e1stelpur) af hverju \u00e9g f\u00e1i m\u00e9r ekki bara titrara. \u00deegar \u00e9g segi \u00feeim a\u00f0 titarann minn skorti h\u00e6fni og \u00e1huga \u00e1 a\u00f0 liggja \u00ed fa\u00f0ml\u00f6gum og plana sumarfr\u00edi\u00f0, taka \u00fe\u00e1tt \u00ed kostna\u00f0i vi\u00f0 h\u00fasn\u00e6\u00f0iskaup, m\u00f3tm\u00e6la \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00e9g s\u00e9 ekki fullkomin \u00fatlits e\u00f0a s\u00fdna lifandi \u00e1huga \u00e1 h\u00e6fileikum m\u00ednum, ver\u00f0a \u00fe\u00e6r ponkul\u00edti\u00f0 vandr\u00e6\u00f0alegar. R\u00e9tt eins og \u00fe\u00e6r hafi aldrei \u00e1tta\u00f0 sig \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed hvers vegna \u00fe\u00e6r hanga enn\u00fe\u00e1 me\u00f0 \u00feessum k\u00f6rlum s\u00ednum, \u00fer\u00e1tt fyrir a\u00f0 \u00feeir s\u00e9u sumir hverjir feitir, sk\u00f6ll\u00f3ttir og me\u00f0 ristruflun og \u00fear a\u00f0 auki afbr\u00fd\u00f0issamir \u00dat \u00ed titrarasett heimilsins.<\/p>\n
En n\u00fa er \u00e9g loksins b\u00fain a\u00f0 finna konu sem er m\u00e9r samm\u00e1la. H\u00fan heitir Marianne Eilenberger og skrifa\u00f0i \u00e1g\u00e6ta sj\u00e1lfsstyrkingarb\u00f3k sem er til \u00ed \u00edslenskri \u00fe\u00fd\u00f0ingu undir heitinu „\u00c1 lausu“. B\u00f3kin fjallar ekki um \u00fea\u00f0 hvernig eigi a\u00f0 n\u00e1 s\u00e9r \u00ed mann e\u00f0a hvernig ma\u00f0ur eigi a\u00f0 s\u00e6tta sig vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 enginn vilji mann, heldur kennir h\u00fan a\u00f0fer\u00f0ir og vi\u00f0horf til a\u00f0 komast l\u00edtt skadda\u00f0ur fr\u00e1 ford\u00f3mum samf\u00e9lags sem l\u00edtur \u00e1 \u00fearfir einhleypra sem feimnism\u00e1l.<\/p>\n
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