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Fyrir um 35 \u00e1rum, vakna\u00f0i ung m\u00f3\u00f0ir \u00ed vesturb\u00e6num um mi\u00f0ja n\u00f3tt, vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 \u00f3kunnugur ma\u00f0ur var kominn upp \u00ed r\u00fam til hennar. Hann var me\u00f0 gr\u00edmu fyrir andlitinu og h\u00e9lt hn\u00edfsegg vi\u00f0 h\u00e1lsinn \u00e1 henni.<\/p>\n

H\u00fan veitti enga m\u00f3tspyrnu. Au\u00f0vita\u00f0 ekki. \u00c1 me\u00f0an hann sv\u00edvirti hana hugsa\u00f0i h\u00fan um tvennt, fyrst hvort henni t\u00e6kist a\u00f0 komast hj\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vekja litla drenginn sinn sem svaf \u00ed rimlar\u00fami \u00ed sama herbergi, ef hann styngi hana. Og svo, ef barni\u00f0 lif\u00f0i af, hversu langan t\u00edma hann yr\u00f0i \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 d\u00fasa einn \u00ed r\u00faminu me\u00f0 \u00fats\u00fdni yfir bl\u00f3\u00f0i drifi\u00f0 l\u00edk m\u00f3\u00f0ur sinnar, \u00fear til einhver k\u00e6mi og bjarga\u00f0i honum.<\/p>\n

Barni\u00f0 vakna\u00f0i ekki, konan lif\u00f0i af og obeldisma\u00f0urinn fannst \u00e1 endanum. \u00deetta var nau\u00f0gun. Alv\u00f6ru nau\u00f0gun en \u00fea\u00f0 var ekki fyrr en gl\u00e6purinn taldist sanna\u00f0ur sem h\u00fan gat reikna\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 a\u00f0rir en hennar n\u00e1nustu try\u00f0u s\u00f6gunni.<\/p>\n

\u00deetta er einstakt d\u00e6mi, flestar nau\u00f0ganir ver\u00f0a ekki \u00e1 \u00feennan h\u00e1tt. \u00deessi kona bau\u00f0 ekki upp \u00e1 ofbeldi\u00f0, h\u00fan var sofandi heima \u00ed r\u00faminu s\u00ednu. A\u00f0 v\u00edsu l\u00e9t l\u00f6ggan sem t\u00f3k af henni sk\u00fdrslu \u00ed lj\u00f3s \u00fe\u00e1 sko\u00f0un a\u00f0 h\u00fan hef\u00f0i veri\u00f0 full dr\u00e6sulega kl\u00e6dd, undir s\u00e6nginni \u00ed s\u00ednu eigin r\u00fami, en h\u00fan var \u00fe\u00f3 allavega bara a\u00f0 gly\u00f0rast heima hj\u00e1 s\u00e9r.<\/p>\n

Svo laumulega f\u00f3r h\u00fan hinsvegar ekki me\u00f0 druslulegt e\u00f0li sitt, konan sem \u00fe\u00e1\u00f0i hamborgara af \u00f3kunnugum manni \u00ed mi\u00f0b\u00e6 Reykjav\u00edkur t\u00edu e\u00f0a fimmt\u00e1n \u00e1rum s\u00ed\u00f0ar og \u00e1lpa\u00f0ist svo me\u00f0 honum upp \u00e1 h\u00f3telherbergi. \u00deegar \u00feanga\u00f0 var komi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00f3tti hamborgakaupandanum h\u00fan full treg til a\u00f0 s\u00fdna \u00feakkl\u00e6ti sitt \u00e1 vi\u00f0eigandi h\u00e1tt svo hann ger\u00f0i \u00fea\u00f0 sem honum fannst r\u00f6kr\u00e9tt \u00ed st\u00f6\u00f0unni; m\u00f6lva\u00f0i \u00e1 henni andliti\u00f0 me\u00f0 handafli og nau\u00f0ga\u00f0i henni svo af mikilli hreysti. Og \u00fea\u00f0 er \u00ed alv\u00f6ru til f\u00f3lk sem er svo g\u00edfurlega v\u00ed\u00f0s\u00fdnt, a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed finnst g\u00e1leysileg heg\u00f0un konunnar skipta m\u00e1li.<\/p>\n

En \u00feessi nau\u00f0gun var heldur ekki d\u00e6miger\u00f0. Flestir \u00feolendur kynfer\u00f0isgl\u00e6pa ver\u00f0a nefnilega ekki fyrir hrottafenginni \u00e1r\u00e1s \u00f3kunnugs manns, heldur eru \u00fea\u00f0 vinir og vandamenn sem brj\u00f3ta gegn \u00feeim. Og til er f\u00f3lk sem l\u00edtur ekki \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 sem gl\u00e6p. H\u00fan vissi \u00fea\u00f0 st\u00falkan sem \u00e1tta\u00f0i sig endanlega \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 h\u00fan var \u00ed ofbeldissambandi, \u00feegar k\u00e6rastinn hennar reif \u00ed h\u00e1ri\u00f0 \u00e1 henni, sveig\u00f0i hnakkann \u00e1 henni aftur og keyr\u00f0i sk\u00f6ndulinn \u00e1 s\u00e9r ofan \u00ed koki\u00f0 \u00e1 henni, svona til \u00feess a\u00f0 kenna henni a\u00f0 g\u00f3\u00f0 st\u00falka seg\u00f0i ekki nei vi\u00f0 unnustann \u00feegar hann by\u00f0i vinum s\u00ednum a\u00f0gang a\u00f0 henni. \u00c1 me\u00f0an hann andskota\u00f0ist \u00e1 v\u00e9lindanu \u00ed henni, hentu \u00feeir f\u00e9lagar \u00e1 milli s\u00edn spurningum um \u00fea\u00f0 hvort geirv\u00f6rtur v\u00e6ru eldfimar, hvort \u00feyrfti kannski a\u00f0 sj\u00faga vinstri geirv\u00f6rtuna til a\u00f0 halda gl\u00f3\u00f0 \u00ed \u00feeirri h\u00e6gri. G\u00edfurlega hressir str\u00e1kar og miklir h\u00famoristar. \u00deetta var bara byrjunin. \u00deegar h\u00fan, m\u00f6rgum vikum s\u00ed\u00f0ar, komst a\u00f0 \u00feeirri ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0u a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri hann sem v\u00e6ri ge\u00f0veikur en ekki h\u00fan, lag\u00f0i h\u00fan loksins fram k\u00e6ru, en til eru menn sem hafa vit \u00e1 a\u00f0 skilja ekki eftir sig \u00e1verka og l\u00edklega hef\u00f0i h\u00fan aldrei geta\u00f0 sanna\u00f0 neitt,\u00a0ef sjarm\u00f6rinn hef\u00f0i ekki s\u00fdnt \u00fe\u00e1 fyrirhyggju a\u00f0 taka eitt afreka sinna upp \u00e1 myndband.<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 er varla h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 hlusta \u00e1 svona s\u00f6gur \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 hnefarnir \u00e1 manni kreppist \u00f3sj\u00e1lfr\u00e1tt. Ma\u00f0ur finnur bl\u00f3\u00f0i\u00f0 hlaupa \u00ed kekki og \u00f6skri\u00f0 hnipra sig saman \u00ed maganum. Svona menn eiga ekki a\u00f0 ganga lausir. \u00dea\u00f0 \u00fearf a\u00f0 vera h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 koma h\u00f6ndum yfir \u00fe\u00e1. \u00dea\u00f0 ver\u00f0ur a\u00f0 vera h\u00e6gt \u00fev\u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 er ekkert r\u00e9ttl\u00e6ti \u00ed \u00f6\u00f0ru. Og bl\u00f3\u00f0i\u00f0 \u00ed manni hr\u00f3par \u00e1 r\u00e9ttl\u00e6ti.<\/p>\n

En<\/strong>\u00a0ma\u00f0ur f\u00e6r ekki allt \u2013 og r\u00e9ttl\u00e6ti fyrir einn getur \u00fe\u00fdtt \u00f3r\u00e9ttl\u00e6ti fyrir einhvern annan. Vi\u00f0 viljum r\u00e9ttl\u00e6ti, a\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfs\u00f6g\u00f0u en \u00fea\u00f0 er alltaf \u00feetta\u00a0en<\/strong>\u00a0og \u00fea\u00f0 er helv\u00edti st\u00f3rt\u00a0en<\/strong>; hva\u00f0 m\u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 kosta?<\/p>\n

Sta\u00f0reyndin er s\u00fa a\u00f0 \u00ed flestum, langflestum nau\u00f0gunarm\u00e1lum stendur or\u00f0 gegn or\u00f0i, ekkert h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 sanna og nau\u00f0garinn sleppur.\u00a0– Og \u00feannig \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 vera. J\u00e1, \u00fea\u00f0 gengur fram af okkur, str\u00ed\u00f0ir gegn \u00f6llu sem heitir r\u00e9ttl\u00e6ti en \u00feannig \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 vera. \u00dea\u00f0 er helv\u00edti sk\u00edtt en j\u00e1, \u00e1 me\u00f0an vi\u00f0 vi\u00f0urkennum \u00fea\u00f0 sem me\u00f0f\u00e6dd r\u00e9ttindi hvers manns a\u00f0 teljast saklaus uns sekt hans er s\u00f6nnu\u00f0, \u00fe\u00e1 ver\u00f0ur svo a\u00f0 vera.<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 er nefnilega til \u00ed d\u00e6minu a\u00f0 menn s\u00e9u bornir r\u00f6ngum s\u00f6kum. \u00dea\u00f0 er vonandi sjaldg\u00e6ft en hversu sjaldg\u00e6ft, \u00fea\u00f0 bara vitum vi\u00f0 ekki, ni\u00f0urst\u00f6\u00f0ur ranns\u00f3kna \u00ed \u00feeim efnum vir\u00f0ast nefnilega velta algerlega \u00e1 p\u00f3lit\u00edskri sannf\u00e6ringu rannsakenda. \u00dea\u00f0 sem vi\u00f0 vitum er a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 getur gerst og a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 gerist og \u00fea\u00f0 er n\u00f3g.<\/p>\n

\u00cd umr\u00e6\u00f0u um kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1l sk\u00fdtur af og til upp \u00feeirri hugmynd a\u00f0 \u00ed \u00feessum m\u00e1laflokki geti \u00f6fug s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i \u00e1tt r\u00e9tt \u00e1 s\u00e9r. \u00deetta er hryllileg hugmynd, hugmynd sem gengur gegn grundvallarreglu r\u00e9ttarr\u00edkisins og mannr\u00e9ttindahugtakinu sj\u00e1lfu.\u00a0N\u00fa hafa tveir \u00e1hrifamiklir feministar, Hildur Lilliendahl og S\u00f3ley T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttir, b\u00e1\u00f0ar svara\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed \u00e1 beinni l\u00ednu hj\u00e1 DV a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r s\u00e9u ekki fylgjandi \u00f6fugri s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i og \u00fea\u00f0 er vissulega \u00e1kve\u00f0inn l\u00e9ttir a\u00f0 vita til \u00feess.<\/p>\n

Og afhverju anda \u00e9g \u00fe\u00e1 ekki bara me\u00f0 nefinu og sn\u00fd m\u00e9r a\u00f0 einhverjum raunverulegum vo\u00f0a fyrst go\u00f0s\u00f6gninni um fylgi vi\u00f0 \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i hefur veri\u00f0 hnekkt? Kannski vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 raunveruleikinn sem vi\u00f0 blasir segir m\u00e9r anna\u00f0. Kannski vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00feegar hefur falli\u00f0 d\u00f3mur \u00ed kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1li \u00fear sem ma\u00f0ur var d\u00e6mdur fyrir \u201cskammvinna stroku inn \u00e1 kynf\u00e6ri<\/a>\u201d \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 nokkur s\u00f6nnun l\u00e6gi fyrir um a\u00f0 umr\u00e6dd stroka hef\u00f0i \u00e1tt s\u00e9r sta\u00f0. (Annars langar mig l\u00edka \u00f3skaplega a\u00f0 sj\u00e1 strokulengdarskalann sem d\u00f3murinn studdist vi\u00f0, hver er n\u00e1kv\u00e6mlega munurinn \u00e1 skammvinnri stoku og langvinnri?) Kannski vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00a0\u00e9g s\u00e9 f\u00f3lk, t.d. S\u00f3leyju, tala um a\u00f0 kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1l\u00a0eigi a\u00f0 fara fyrir d\u00f3m<\/a>, enda \u00fe\u00f3tt ekki s\u00e9 lj\u00f3st hvort g\u00f6gn m\u00e6la me\u00f0 sakfellingu e\u00f0a ekki. \u00dea\u00f0 er hreinlega eins og f\u00f3lk \u00e1tti sig ekki \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00feegar or\u00f0 stendur gegn or\u00f0i, \u00fe\u00e1 er\u00a0e\u00f0lileg<\/strong>\u00a0afgrei\u00f0sla r\u00e9ttarkefisins s\u00fa a\u00f0 v\u00edsa m\u00e1linu fr\u00e1. R\u00e9ttl\u00e1t afgrei\u00f0sla? Nei, ekki fyrir raunverulegan \u00feolanda sem getur ekki sanna\u00f0 m\u00e1l sitt en e\u00f0lileg \u00ed lj\u00f3si \u00feeirrar meginreglu a\u00f0 s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0in liggi hj\u00e1 \u00e1k\u00e6ruvaldinu.<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 er \u00f3hugnanleg \u00fer\u00f3un sem \u00e1 s\u00e9r sta\u00f0 \u00ed me\u00f0fer\u00f0 \u00edslenska d\u00f3mskerfisins \u00e1 kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1lum. \u00der\u00f3un sem hvorki dregur \u00far t\u00ed\u00f0ni \u00feessarra gl\u00e6pa n\u00e9 alvarleik \u00feeirra, heldur b\u00fdr \u00ed haginn fyrir a\u00f0ra en s\u00edst ge\u00f0slegri tegund ofbeldismanna; konur sem k\u00faga menn, me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 lj\u00faga upp \u00e1 \u00fe\u00e1 ofbeldisverkum. \u00dev\u00ed svolei\u00f0is konur eru nefnilega til, klikka\u00f0ar konur e\u00f0a bara illa ger\u00f0ar, j\u00e1 \u00fe\u00e6r eru til, \u00fe\u00f3tt PR-f\u00f3lki\u00f0 flokki \u00fea\u00f0 \u00a0sj\u00e1lfsagt sem hreint og kl\u00e1rt kvenhatur a\u00f0 vi\u00f0urkenna \u00fea\u00f0. Annarsvegar s\u00fa \u00fer\u00f3un a\u00f0 menn eru d\u00e6mdir \u00e1n sannana, sbr stokulengdard\u00f3nann. Hinsvegar er eina lei\u00f0in sem m\u00f6nnum hefur hugkv\u00e6mst til \u00feess a\u00f0 vi\u00f0urkenna a\u00f0 broti\u00f0 hafi veri\u00f0 gegn konunni, s\u00fa a\u00f0 \u00feyngja refsingar \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 nokku\u00f0 bendi til \u00feess a\u00f0 refsingar dragi \u00far ofbeldi.<\/p>\n

\u00cd september sl. var ma\u00f0ur d\u00e6mdur fyrir kynfer\u00f0isbrot gagnvart\u00a0konu sem var a\u00f0 kasta af s\u00e9r vatni<\/a>\u00a0\u00e1 Austurvelli. N\u00fa er \u00e9g ekki a\u00f0 m\u00e6la me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 d\u00f3mskerfi\u00f0 komi s\u00e9r upp h\u00famor fyrir svona heg\u00f0un og \u00e9g efast \u00e9g ekki um a\u00f0 \u00feetta hafi veri\u00f0 hrikaleg reynsla fyrir konuna en mig langar a\u00f0 segja ykkur s\u00f6gu til samanbur\u00f0ar.<\/p>\n

Hann Darri sonur minn var\u00f0 eitt sinn fyrir \u00feeirri \u00f3skemmtilegu reynslu a\u00f0 bl\u00e1\u00f3kunnugir menn r\u00e9\u00f0ust \u00e1 hann, \u00fear sem hann var a\u00f0 kasta af s\u00e9r vatni \u00e1 b\u00edlast\u00e6\u00f0i. Menn sem hann haf\u00f0i engin or\u00f0askipti \u00e1tt vi\u00f0, menn sem enga sk\u00fdringu g\u00e1fu \u00e1 \u00feessari heg\u00f0un fyrir r\u00e9tti. \u00deeir b\u00f6r\u00f0u hann, sp\u00f6rku\u00f0u \u00ed andliti\u00f0 \u00e1 honum og \u00fatiloka\u00f0 a\u00f0 segja til um hvort hann hef\u00f0i lifa\u00f0 \u00e1r\u00e1sina af ef ekki hef\u00f0u veri\u00f0 vitni a\u00f0 gl\u00e6pnum sem st\u00f6\u00f0vu\u00f0u \u00fe\u00e1. Hann slapp me\u00f0 brotna t\u00f6nn, sprungi\u00f0 kinnbein, a\u00f0ra augnmugj\u00f6r\u00f0 sprungna \u00e1 m\u00f6rgum st\u00f6\u00f0um og brot \u00e1samt m\u00f6rgum sm\u00e1sprungum \u00ed hinni. \u00c9g hir\u00f0i ekki um a\u00f0 telja mar og skr\u00e1mur \u00e1 \u00f6\u00f0rum l\u00edkamshlutum en andliti\u00f0 \u00e1 honum var afmynda\u00f0 \u00ed margar vikur og hann \u00feurfti morf\u00ednskyld verkjalyf til a\u00f0 \u00feola vi\u00f0. \u00deetta voru s\u00edbrotamenn, annar \u00feeirra haf\u00f0i \u00e1\u00f0ur fengi\u00f0 \u00e1 sig tvo d\u00f3ma vegna tilefnislausra l\u00edkams\u00e1r\u00e1sa og \u00fea\u00f0 var vitanlega virt honum til refsi\u00feyngingar. Hann f\u00e9kk fj\u00f6gurra m\u00e1na\u00f0a fangelsi, hinn \u00feriggja. Reyndar f\u00e9ll \u00feessi d\u00f3mur ekki fyrir \u00edslenskum d\u00f3mst\u00f3l svo einhverjum getur \u00fe\u00f3tt samanbur\u00f0urinn \u00f3sanngjarn en \u00e9g s\u00e9 ekki betur en a\u00f0 einnig \u00cdslendingar s\u00fdni\u00a0\u00fe\u00f3 nokku\u00f0 gott umbur\u00f0arlyndi<\/a>\u00a0gagnvart \u00a0l\u00edkamsr\u00e1r\u00e1sum. \u00c1 \u00cdslandi hef\u00f0i \u00feessum k\u00f3num sennilega engin refsing veri\u00f0 ger\u00f0, \u00fear sem vafi l\u00e9k \u00e1 hvor \u00feeirra \u00fea\u00f0 var sem l\u00e9t b\u00edfurnar va\u00f0a \u00ed andliti\u00f0 \u00e1 honum. Puttaperrinn \u00e1 Austurvelli haf\u00f0i ekki komist \u00ed kast vi\u00f0 l\u00f6gin \u00e1\u00f0ur, hann f\u00e9kk 18 m\u00e1na\u00f0a fangelsi \u00f3skilor\u00f0sbundi\u00f0. Eitt og h\u00e1lft \u00e1r. Og svo talar f\u00f3lk um kvenhatur og nau\u00f0gunarmenningu, a\u00f0 ofbeldi gegn konum s\u00e9 umbori\u00f0. Er \u00fea\u00f0 virkilega svo?<\/p>\n

\u00c9g fagna \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 konur \u00e1 bor\u00f0 vi\u00f0 Hildi Lilliendahl og S\u00f3leyju T\u00f3masd\u00f3ttur skuli opinberlega l\u00fdsa yfir andst\u00f6\u00f0u sinni vi\u00f0 \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i. Samt sem \u00e1\u00f0ur er full \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0a til a\u00f0 vera \u00e1 var\u00f0bergi gagnvart \u00f6llu da\u00f0ri vi\u00f0 \u00feessa \u00f3hugnanlegu hugmynd. H\u00e6ttan er nefnilega raunveruleg. Svo raunveruleg a\u00f0 hva\u00f0 sem grundvelli r\u00e9ttarr\u00edkisins og mannr\u00e9ttindas\u00e1ttm\u00e1lum l\u00ed\u00f0ur, hafa Bretar \u00feegar teki\u00f0 upp \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i \u00ed kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1lum. Og nei, \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki eitt or\u00f0 \u00ed l\u00f6gum um \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i og \u00e9g skal raka mig sk\u00f6ll\u00f3tta ef breska r\u00edki\u00f0 vi\u00f0urkennir nokkurnt\u00edma \u00fea\u00f0 hugtak, en vi\u00f0 skulum bara athuga \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 Bandar\u00edkjastj\u00f3rn vi\u00f0urkennir heldur ekki, a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r j\u00e1tningahvetjandi a\u00f0ger\u00f0ir sem t\u00ed\u00f0kast \u00ed fangab\u00fa\u00f0unum vi\u00f0 Guant\u00e1namo fl\u00f3a, eigi nokku\u00f0 skylt vi\u00f0 pyntingar.<\/p>\n

\u00cd Bretlandi taka menn mark \u00e1 konum sem segjast hafa or\u00f0i\u00f0 fyrir kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi<\/a>. \u00dea\u00f0 hlj\u00f3mar svosem n\u00f3gu vel, svo lengi sem hinn \u00e1k\u00e6r\u00f0i er raunverulega sekur. En \u00feegar ma\u00f0ur sem ekkert hefur af s\u00e9r gert, stendur frammi fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vottor\u00f0 um \u00e1fallastreitur\u00f6skun (fr\u00e1 s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ingi, sem \u00fevert \u00e1 \u00f3tal d\u00e6mi um hi\u00f0 gagnst\u00e6\u00f0a, telur \u00fatiloka\u00f0 a\u00f0 nokkur kona beri fram \u00a0sta\u00f0h\u00e6fulausar s\u00f6gur um kynfer\u00f0isbrot) telst fulln\u00e6gjandi s\u00f6nnunargagn, \u00fe\u00e1 hl\u00fdtur ma\u00f0ur a\u00f0 spyrja hvort \u00fea\u00f0 hafi virkilega veri\u00f0 \u00feetta sem \u00e1tt var vi\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 gefa fr\u00e1s\u00f6gn konunnar v\u00e6gi. \u00deegar svo vi\u00f0 b\u00e6tist\u00a0a\u00f0 fyrri kynheg\u00f0un hans er notu\u00f0 gegn honum enda \u00fe\u00f3tt hvergi megi minnast \u00e1 kynheg\u00f0un konunnar, og a\u00f0 \u00e1sakanir annarra kvenna, enda \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00feeim hafi veri\u00f0 v\u00edsa\u00f0 fr\u00e1 d\u00f3mi, eru lag\u00f0ar fram til vitnis um sk\u00edth\u00e6lsh\u00e1tt hans, \u00fe\u00e1 stendur hann, hva\u00f0 sem lagab\u00f3kstafnum l\u00ed\u00f0ur, frammi fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0\u00a0\u00feurfa sj\u00e1lfur a\u00f0 sanna sakleysi sitt<\/a>enda \u00fe\u00f3tt engar sannanir liggi fyrir um afbrot af neinu tagi. \u00dea\u00f0 er n\u00fa bara \u00feannig og \u00fev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur, \u00feetta er svona vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 of m\u00f6rgu f\u00f3lki finnst \u00fea\u00f0 bara allt \u00ed lagi.<\/p>\n

Til eru menn sem hafa veri\u00f0 hreinsa\u00f0ir af \u00e1bur\u00f0i um nau\u00f0ganir, mor\u00f0 og fleiri alvarlega gl\u00e6pi eftir a\u00f0 hafa s\u00e6tt \u00e1k\u00e6ru, d\u00f3mi og margra \u00e1ra refsingu, fyrir gl\u00e6pi sem \u00feeir fr\u00f6mdu ekki. Vonandi heyrir \u00fea\u00f0 til undantekninga, vonandi, en \u00fev\u00ed mi\u00f0ur, vi\u00f0 bara vitum ekki hversu margir \u00feeir eru sem \u00ed dag sitja saklausir \u00ed fangelsi. Og vi\u00f0 getum \u00e1rei\u00f0anlega veri\u00f0 samm\u00e1la um a\u00f0 kynfer\u00f0isbrotamenn eigi ekki a\u00f0 ganga lausir en spurningin sem vi\u00f0 ver\u00f0um a\u00f0 hafa \u00ed huga, st\u00f6\u00f0ugt og \u00fev\u00ed fremur \u00feegar rei\u00f0in kreppir \u00e1 okkur hnefana og \u00f6skri\u00f0 gerir sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6\u00f0a tilraun til \u00feess a\u00f0 brj\u00f3tast upp \u00far kvi\u00f0num, er \u00feessi \u00f3\u00fe\u00e6gilega, nagandi spurning sem samt sem \u00e1\u00f0ur er svo au\u00f0velt a\u00f0 \u00fdta fr\u00e1 s\u00e9r, spurningin;\u00a0hva\u00f0 m\u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 kosta?\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

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