{"id":1017,"date":"2011-12-14T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2011-12-14T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.norn.is\/kyndillinn\/?p=1017"},"modified":"2018-02-10T23:00:39","modified_gmt":"2018-02-10T23:00:39","slug":"eru-their-sem-naudga-og-bera-ljugvitni-venjulegt-folk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.norn.is\/kyndillinn\/eru-their-sem-naudga-og-bera-ljugvitni-venjulegt-folk\/","title":{"rendered":"Eru \u00feeir sem nau\u00f0ga og bera lj\u00fagvitni venjulegt f\u00f3lk?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"David<\/a><\/p>\n

\u00c9g hef haldi\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed fram a\u00f0 \u00fer\u00e1tt fyrir a\u00f0 nokku\u00f0 h\u00e1tt hlutfall kvenna hafi or\u00f0i\u00f0 fyrir kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi, merki \u00fea\u00f0 ekki a\u00f0 nau\u00f0ganir s\u00e9u vi\u00f0urkennd heg\u00f0un me\u00f0al venjulegra karla. \u00c9g hef neita\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed sta\u00f0fastlega a\u00f0 nau\u00f0garar s\u00e9u \u00f3sk\u00f6p venjulegir menn og horft til \u00feess hversu algengt \u00fea\u00f0 vir\u00f0ist a\u00f0 nau\u00f0garar s\u00e9u st\u00f3rt\u00e6kir. \u00c9g h\u00e9lt a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri sjaldg\u00e6ft a\u00f0 menn pr\u00f3fu\u00f0u nau\u00f0gun svona einu sinni upp \u00e1 gr\u00edni\u00f0 og k\u00e6must a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 h\u00f6f\u00f0a\u00f0i bara ekki til \u00feeirra. Hef \u00fev\u00ed veri\u00f0 sannf\u00e6r\u00f0 um a\u00f0 hlutfall nau\u00f0gara s\u00e9 mj\u00f6g l\u00e1gt.<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 l\u00edtur \u00fat fyrir a\u00f0 \u00e9g hafi haft rangt fyrir m\u00e9r. Um daginn var m\u00e9r bent \u00e1 ranns\u00f3knir\u00a0Davids Lizak, pr\u00f3fessors<\/a>\u00a0sem segir a\u00f0 menn, sem \u00ed nafnlausri k\u00f6nnun j\u00e1ti \u00e1 sig heg\u00f0un sem flokkast samkv\u00e6mt laganna skilningi sem kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi, s\u00e9u t\u00e6plega 6,4 af hundra\u00f0i. Semsagt einn af hverjum sext\u00e1n. M\u00e9r finnst \u00feetta allt of h\u00e1 tala og m\u00edn fyrstu vi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0 voru \u00feau a\u00f0 l\u00edklega v\u00e6ri \u00feessi fr\u00e6\u00f0ima\u00f0ur \u00e1l\u00edka markt\u00e6kur og Melissa Farley sem kallar sk\u00e1lds\u00f6g\u00f0ur s\u00ednar ranns\u00f3knir enda \u00fe\u00f3tt engar v\u00edsindalegar a\u00f0fer\u00f0ir hafi veri\u00f0 vi\u00f0haf\u00f0ar. \u00c9g hef ekki sko\u00f0a\u00f0 ranns\u00f3knir D. Lisak ofan \u00ed kj\u00f6linn en \u00ed flj\u00f3tu brag\u00f0i s\u00fdnist m\u00e9r a\u00f0 hann standi undir s\u00ednum doktorstitli. \u00dea\u00f0 er \u00fev\u00ed best a\u00f0 horfast bara \u00ed augu vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 l\u00edklega eru nau\u00f0garar \u00ed vinah\u00f3pnum, fj\u00f6lskyldunni og me\u00f0al vinnuf\u00e9laganna. Vi\u00f0 getum reikna\u00f0 me\u00f0 a\u00f0 tveir til \u00fer\u00edr\u00a0 nau\u00f0garar sitji \u00e1 \u00feingi og a\u00f0 me\u00f0al \u00f6\u00f0linganna sem skrifu\u00f0u pistla \u00e1 \u00feorranum s\u00e9 einn og \u00fe\u00f3 sennilega fekar tveir nau\u00f0garar.<\/p>\n

\u00c9g hef \u00fe\u00f3 ekki einungis haft \u00f3h\u00f3flegt \u00e1lit \u00e1 karlkyninu heldur tr\u00fa\u00f0i \u00e9g \u00fev\u00ed l\u00edka a\u00f0 konur v\u00e6ru almennt s\u00e6milega vel innr\u00e6ttar. \u00c9g hef t.d. tr\u00faa\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed gagnr\u00fdnislaust a\u00f0 hlutfall falskra sakargifta \u00ed kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1lum v\u00e6ri eins og \u00ed \u00f6\u00f0rum m\u00e1laflokkum \u00e1 bilinu 1-2% l\u00edklega frekar \u00ed l\u00e6gri kantinum.<\/p>\n

M\u00e9r yfirs\u00e1st \u00fea\u00f0 auglj\u00f3sa. \u00cd flestum m\u00e1laflokkum eru falskar sakargiftir sjaldg\u00e6far, b\u00e6\u00f0i\u00a0 vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 til \u00feess a\u00f0 bera einhvern s\u00f6kum \u00fearf gl\u00e6pur hafi veri\u00f0 framinn en einnig vegna \u00feess a\u00f0 m\u00f3t\u00edv \u00feeirra sem koma s\u00f6k \u00e1 mann, er oftast \u00fea\u00f0 a\u00f0 hl\u00edfa sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r e\u00f0a einhverjum \u00f6\u00f0rum. Falskar sakargiftir \u00ed mor\u00f0m\u00e1lum \u00fej\u00f3na t.d. oftast \u00feeim tilgangi a\u00f0 koma s\u00f6k af \u00feeim sem er raunverulega sekur. \u00dea\u00f0 mun hinsvegar f\u00e1t\u00edtt a\u00f0 menn s\u00e9u \u00e1saka\u00f0ir um mor\u00f0 \u00fear sem ekkert mor\u00f0 hefur veri\u00f0 frami\u00f0. Svi\u00f0sett innbrot og \u00fej\u00f3fna\u00f0ir \u00fej\u00f3na oft \u00feeim tilgangi a\u00f0 n\u00e1 peningum \u00fat \u00far tryggingaf\u00e9l\u00f6gum e\u00f0a b\u00f3tum fr\u00e1 hinu opinbera og \u00ed sl\u00edkum m\u00e1lum er sjaldan til b\u00f3ta a\u00f0 einhver \u00e1kve\u00f0inn ma\u00f0ur s\u00e9 borinn s\u00f6kum. \u00dea\u00f0 er au\u00f0veldara a\u00f0 saka mann ranglega um kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi en flesta a\u00f0ra gl\u00e6pi. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki au\u00f0velt a\u00f0 f\u00e1 hann d\u00e6mdan en \u00fea\u00f0 er au\u00f0velt a\u00f0 ey\u00f0ileggja mannor\u00f0 hans. Og j\u00fa \u00e9g hef heyrt \u00feetta allt saman \u00e1\u00f0ur en \u00e9g tr\u00fa\u00f0i \u00fev\u00ed ekki. \u00c9g tr\u00fa\u00f0i \u00fev\u00ed ekki a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri algengt a\u00f0 konur b\u00e6ru menn r\u00f6ngum s\u00f6kum, enda \u00fe\u00f3tt \u00fe\u00e6r v\u00e6ru \u00ed a\u00f0st\u00f6\u00f0u til \u00feess. \u00c9g h\u00e9lt a\u00f0 a\u00f0eins mj\u00f6g sj\u00fakar konur heg\u00f0u\u00f0u s\u00e9r \u00e1 \u00feennan h\u00e1tt.<\/p>\n

\u00c9g haf\u00f0i rangt fyrir m\u00e9r. Allavega kemst sami v\u00edsindama\u00f0ur, David Lisak a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00ed kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1lum s\u00e9u\u00a05,9% \u00e1k\u00e6ra falskar<\/a>.\u00a0 Semsagt ein af hverjum sautj\u00e1n. Hversvegna \u00ed fjandanum finnst sumum konum \u00ed lagi a\u00f0 leggja fram falska k\u00e6ru? Hva\u00f0 er \u00fea\u00f0 \u00ed samf\u00e9lagsger\u00f0 okkar sem b\u00fd\u00f0ur upp \u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0?<\/p>\n

\u00c9g h\u00e9lt a\u00f0 hvortveggja v\u00e6ri sjaldg\u00e6ft, karlar sem nau\u00f0ga og konur sem lj\u00faga upp nau\u00f0gunum en \u00feessi vandam\u00e1l vir\u00f0ast algengari en \u00e9g h\u00e9lt. N\u00fa eru \u00ed gangi \u00fdmsar a\u00f0ger\u00f0ir til a\u00f0 taka \u00e1 \u00f6\u00f0ru \u00feessara vandam\u00e1la. D\u00f3mar \u00ed kynfer\u00f0isbrotam\u00e1lun hafa \u00feyngst. Massivur \u00e1r\u00f3\u00f0ur \u00ed tengslum vi\u00f0 \u00fatih\u00e1t\u00ed\u00f0ir. Karlar skr\u00e1 sig \u00ed kynjafr\u00e6\u00f0i og setja ofan \u00ed vi\u00f0 vini s\u00edna \u00feegar \u00feeir segja nau\u00f0gunarbrandara e\u00f0a s\u00fdna a\u00f0ra karlrembuheg\u00f0un. \u00dea\u00f0 er gott m\u00e1l, verulega gott m\u00e1l. M\u00e9r finnst\u00a0\u00feetta tilt\u00e6ki\u00a0<\/a>aftur \u00e1 m\u00f3ti frekar vafasamt. Held a\u00f0 m\u00f6rgum af \u00feessum r\u00edflega 93 k\u00f6rlum af hverjum hundra\u00f0 sem ekki nau\u00f0ga konum finnist frekar svona ergilegt a\u00f0 tala\u00f0 s\u00e9 ni\u00f0ur til \u00feeirra \u00e1 \u00feennan h\u00e1tt og g\u00e6ti l\u00edka tr\u00faa\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00feessir 6-7 sem \u00feurfa \u00e1 skilabo\u00f0unum a\u00f0 halda hafni \u00feeim \u00feegar \u00feau eru sett fram \u00e1 \u00feennan h\u00e1tt. En semsagt, \u00fea\u00f0 er veri\u00f0 a\u00f0 taka \u00e1 \u00f6\u00f0ru vandam\u00e1linu og vi\u00f0 getum \u00feakka\u00f0 feministum \u00fea\u00f0.<\/p>\n

Spurningin er hvernig vi\u00f0 \u00e6tlum a\u00f0 taka \u00e1 hinu vandam\u00e1linu, konum sem lj\u00faga?<\/p>\n

Vonandi ekki me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 dreifa j\u00f3la\u00f3skum um a\u00f0 konur h\u00e6tti a\u00f0 lj\u00faga upp nau\u00f0gunum.<\/p>\n

Vonandi ekki me\u00f0 minnismi\u00f0um me\u00f0 \u00e1letunum \u00e1 bor\u00f0 vi\u00f0: ,,\u00deegar karlma\u00f0ur sl\u00edtur sambandi vi\u00f0 \u00feig -ekki saka hann um nau\u00f0gun“ e\u00f0a „\u00deegar karlma\u00f0ur vill nj\u00f3ta e\u00f0lilegrar umgengni vi\u00f0 b\u00f6rnin s\u00edn -ekki saka hann um nau\u00f0gun.“<\/p>\n

Vonandi ekki me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 hamra \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 „venjulegar“ konur beri ofbeldisgl\u00e6pi \u00e1 menn a\u00f0 \u00f3sekju, flestar okkar gera \u00fea\u00f0 nefnilega ekki og sj\u00e1 \u00fea\u00f0 ekki sem e\u00f0lilega heg\u00f0un \u00fe\u00f3tt s\u00e9 \u00e1rei\u00f0anlega jafn erfitt a\u00f0 \u00feekkja lygarana \u00far eins og nau\u00f0garana \u00far h\u00f3pi venjulegra karla.<\/p>\n

Vonandi ekki me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 taka upp \u00f6fuga s\u00f6nnunarbyr\u00f0i gagnvart r\u00f6ngum sakargiftum, \u00feannig a\u00f0 h\u00e6gt ver\u00f0i a\u00f0 d\u00e6ma konu sem k\u00e6rir nau\u00f0gun fyrir lj\u00fagvitni nema h\u00fan geti sanna\u00f0 sitt m\u00e1l.<\/p>\n

Bar\u00e1ttan gegn kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi hefur gert alla karla tortryggilega en \u00f3sta\u00f0fest er a\u00f0 h\u00fan hafi dregi\u00f0 \u00far t\u00ed\u00f0ni nau\u00f0gana. Kannski v\u00e6ri h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 sn\u00faa \u00feessu vi\u00f0, draga \u00far t\u00ed\u00f0ni ofbeldis en ganga l\u00edka \u00fat fr\u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 karlmenn kunni a\u00f0 heg\u00f0a s\u00e9r. \u00c9g veit ekki hvernig en allar hugmyndir eru vel \u00feegnar. Vonandi er l\u00edka h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 taka \u00e1 r\u00f6ngum sakargiftum \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 gera konum \u00fea\u00f0 enn\u00fe\u00e1 erfi\u00f0ara fyrir a\u00f0 segja fr\u00e1 kynfer\u00f0isofbeldi. Vi\u00f0 vitum allavega a\u00f0 ofur\u00e1hersla \u00e1 fr\u00e1vikin, \u00fatsk\u00fafun \u00feeirra \u00far mannlegu samf\u00e9lagi og st\u00f6\u00f0ug tortryggni gagnvart helmingi mannkynsins er ekki l\u00edkleg til a\u00f0 uppr\u00e6ta hatursfulla heg\u00f0un.<\/p>\n

Uppf\u00e6rt: \u00deegar allt kemur til alls er ranns\u00f3kn Lisaks ekki eins \u00e1rei\u00f0anleg og \u00e9g h\u00e9lt.<\/p>\n