\u00c1\u00f0ur fyrr var unga konan bl\u00f3mar\u00f3s, au\u00f0narhl\u00edn, silkirein, yngism\u00e6r. Nema h\u00fan v\u00e6ri g\u00e1la e\u00f0a skass au\u00f0vita\u00f0 en pr\u00fa\u00f0a st\u00falkan sem var f\u00f6\u00f0ur s\u00ednum hl\u00fd\u00f0in og \u00fe\u00e6gilegt kvon’fang’ v\u00e6ntanlegs maka s\u00edns, var \u00fe\u00f3 \u00e1v\u00f6rpu\u00f0 fremur \u00e1st\u00fa\u00f0lega, allavega \u00ed sk\u00e1ldskap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Svo h\u00e6ttu konur a\u00f0 vera svona \u00f3skaplega hl\u00fd\u00f0nar. \u00de\u00e6r heimtu\u00f0u mannr\u00e9ttindi og t\u00f3ku upp \u00e1 \u00feeim \u00f3skunda a\u00f0 afla s\u00e9r \u00feekkingar og mynda s\u00e9r sko\u00f0anir. Ungir menn \u00fer\u00e1\u00f0u enn\u00fe\u00e1 n\u00e1vist ungra kvenna og \u00feeir enskum\u00e6landi kalla s\u00ednar \u00fer\u00e1\u00f0u og d\u00e1\u00f0u sugar, honey, babe og pie. Hin \u00edslenska silkirein var\u00f0 l\u00edka a\u00f0 p\u00e6ju (s\u00e6tri neysluv\u00f6ru), en \u00fe\u00f3 oftar a\u00f0 gellu (gella er sl\u00edmugur fiskv\u00f6\u00f0vi sem d\u00faar ef \u00fdtt er vi\u00f0 honum, athyglisver\u00f0 l\u00edking) e\u00f0a skv\u00edsu (eitthva\u00f0 til a\u00f0 kreista) og or\u00f0 sem \u00e1\u00f0ur h\u00f6f\u00f0u \u00fe\u00f3tt fremur \u00f3vir\u00f0uleg, svosem stelpa og dr\u00f3s ur\u00f0u a\u00f0 hversdagsheitum yfir \u00f3sk\u00f6p pr\u00fa\u00f0ar st\u00falkur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Or\u00f0 sem enn \u00ed dag eru hlutl\u00e6g heiti, notu\u00f0 um st\u00falkur og ungar konur \u00ed \u00f6\u00f0rum Nor\u00f0urlandam\u00e1lum, svosem pige og t\u00f6s \u00ed d\u00f6nsku, ver\u00f0a \u00ed \u00edslensku heiti \u00e1 kynf\u00e6rum kvenna; p\u00edka og tussa, og oftar en ekki notu\u00f0 \u00ed fremur ni\u00f0randi merkingu. \u00deau eru svo yfirf\u00e6r\u00f0 \u00e1 st\u00falkuna sj\u00e1lfa og \u00fe\u00f3tt p\u00edkur s\u00e9u almennt \u00e1litnar nokku\u00f0 ind\u00e6l l\u00edff\u00e6ri, \u00feykir samt ekki par f\u00ednt a\u00f0 vera<\/strong> p\u00edka e\u00f0a tussa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c1fram h\u00e9lt kvenfrelsisbar\u00e1ttan. Konur fengu v\u00f6ld og \u00fear me\u00f0 t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri til a\u00f0 taka \u00fe\u00e1tt \u00ed \u00feeim gl\u00e6p a\u00f0 vi\u00f0halda samf\u00e9lagi \u00fear sem 2% \u00edb\u00faanna ‘eiga’ 90% allra g\u00e6\u00f0a og vilja meira og unglingar eru heila\u00fevegnir til \u00feess a\u00f0 drepa me\u00f0br\u00e6\u00f0ur s\u00edna \u00ed nafni f\u00f6r\u00f0ulands\u00e1star. Mikill er hagur Strympu or\u00f0inn n\u00fa \u00feegar gl\u00e6pastarfsemi er or\u00f0in a\u00f0 kvenr\u00e9ttindum. Frelsi\u00f0 er \u00fe\u00f3 a\u00f0 flestu leyti gott. \u00c1 Vesturl\u00f6ndum megum vi\u00f0 jafnvel sofa hj\u00e1 \u00feeim sem okkur s\u00fdnist \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 var\u00f0i refsingu. (Vi\u00f0 megum a\u00f0 v\u00edsu ekki hagnast \u00e1 \u00fev\u00ed \u00fea\u00f0 er svo d\u00f3nalegt.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Um t\u00edma voru yngismeyjarnar \u00edslensku kalla\u00f0ar ‘guggur’. \u00c9g ver\u00f0 a\u00f0 vi\u00f0urkenna a\u00f0 \u00e9g \u00feekki ekki uppruna e\u00f0a merkingu \u00feess or\u00f0s. M\u00e9r dettur helst \u00ed hug a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 hreinlega s\u00e9rnafni\u00f0 Gugga sem \u00feyki fara ungri, skemmtanagla\u00f0ri og kannski lausl\u00e1tri st\u00falku vel og hafi veri\u00f0 teki\u00f0 upp sem samheiti, \u00e1 svipa\u00f0an h\u00e1tt og \u00e9g nota gu\u00f0j\u00f3nar yfir me\u00f0almennskudrj\u00f3la. \u00c9g veit \u00fea\u00f0 \u00fe\u00f3 ekki svo ef einhver getur uppl\u00fdst mig er \u00fea\u00f0 vel \u00feegi\u00f0. Guggan er \u00fe\u00f3 \u00e1 undanhaldi eftir uppl\u00fdsingum fr\u00e1 ungd\u00f3mnum a\u00f0 d\u00e6ma og \u00ed dag er unga st\u00falkan ekki lengur p\u00e6ja e\u00f0a skv\u00edsa, ekki einu sinni gugga heldur skinka. M\u00e9r skilst a\u00f0 hugmyndin s\u00e9 s\u00fa a\u00f0 p\u00edkur s\u00e9u svipa\u00f0ar skinku \u00e1 litinn. Ung kona er \u00feannig fyrst og fremst p\u00edka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Eftir \u00fev\u00ed sem konur ver\u00f0a sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6\u00f0ari og fj\u00f6lh\u00e6fari, einkennist or\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0an af st\u00f6\u00f0ugt meiri \u00e1herslu \u00e1 kynf\u00e6ri \u00feeirra og hugsanlega kynheg\u00f0un sem \u00feykir ekki vir\u00f0uleg. Skv\u00edsa er \u00feannig st\u00falka sem gegnir \u00fev\u00ed hlutverki a\u00f0 vera kreist (og \u00fe\u00e1 v\u00e6ntanlega kj\u00f6ssu\u00f0 og hugsanlega eitthva\u00f0 meira \u00ed lei\u00f0inni) og er nokku\u00f0 s\u00e1tt vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0. Einnotast\u00falkan sem \u00d3lafur Ragnar \u00fer\u00e1ir a\u00f0 draga heim me\u00f0 s\u00e9r er ein svona gugga \u00far hj\u00f6r\u00f0inni. \u00c9g sl\u00f3 or\u00f0i\u00f0 guggur inn \u00ed google leitarv\u00e9lina og f\u00e9kk upp ‘sj\u00f3\u00f0andi heitar guggur’ og ‘\u00fatri\u00f0nar, gr\u00fat\u00feunnar guggur’. Skinkan er kannski enn meira ni\u00f0randi, sv\u00ednakj\u00f6t \u00feykir svosem \u00e1g\u00e6tt til \u00e1tu en hefur aldrei talist s\u00e9rlega vir\u00f0ulegt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hva\u00f0 veldur \u00feessu? Stafar k\u00f6rlum sl\u00edk \u00f3gn af sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6\u00f0i kvenna a\u00f0 \u00feeir finni sig kn\u00fana til a\u00f0 leggja st\u00f6\u00f0ugt meiri \u00e1herslu \u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00feeir geti \u00fe\u00f3 allavega ri\u00f0i\u00f0 okkur enn\u00fe\u00e1? Af hverju finnst karlmanni hann bera einhverskonar sigur \u00far b\u00fdtum ef kona vill stunda skuldbingarlaust kynl\u00edf me\u00f0 honum og afhverju er \u00fea\u00f0 henni til minnkunar en ekki honum?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Og af hverju s\u00e6tta konur, einkum ungar konur sig vi\u00f0 \u00feessa or\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0u? Af hverju s\u00e6tta \u00fe\u00e6r sig vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 kynfrelsi \u00feeirra s\u00e9 \u00e1liti\u00f0 \u00f3merkilegt og \u00feeim sj\u00e1lfum til vansa og afhverju s\u00e6tta \u00fe\u00e6r sig vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 n\u00e1nast allt sem \u00fe\u00e6r gera og segja s\u00e9 sko\u00f0a\u00f0 \u00ed lj\u00f3si \u00feess a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r eru konur, \u00fe.e.a.s. manneskjur me\u00f0 p\u00edku?<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00dea\u00f0 er ekkert erfitt a\u00f0 breyta or\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0unni. \u00c9g hef a\u00f0 v\u00edsu aldrei or\u00f0i\u00f0 fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 karlma\u00f0ur kalli mig skinku, allavega ekki svo \u00e9g heyri en ef karlma\u00f0ur \u00e1varpar mig skv\u00edsu, d\u00fallu e\u00f0a eitthva\u00f0 anna\u00f0 sem fer \u00ed taugarnar \u00e1 m\u00e9r, \u00fe\u00e1 kalla \u00e9g b\u00e6\u00f0i typpi\u00f0 \u00e1 honum og hann sj\u00e1lfan dindil, sprella e\u00f0a kj\u00e1naprik. \u00deeim finnst bara fr\u00e1b\u00e6rt a\u00f0 vera me\u00f0 gaur e\u00f0a nagla (enda eru \u00feeir nota\u00f0ir til a\u00f0 reka eitthva\u00f0 \u00ed gegn og festa \u00fea\u00f0) en dindill er ekki s\u00e9rlega vir\u00f0ulegur. \u00dea\u00f0 er \u00feannig vel h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 sussa \u00e1 \u00fe\u00e1 ef \u00feeir eru d\u00f3nalegir. \u00dea\u00f0 er l\u00edka h\u00e6gt a\u00f0 fara \u00fe\u00e1 lei\u00f0 a\u00f0 gildisfella or\u00f0in me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 nota \u00feau \u00e1 j\u00e1kv\u00e6\u00f0an h\u00e1tt. \u00deetta hefur svosem gerst sm\u00e1tt og sm\u00e1tt, \u00fea\u00f0 er ekki lengur m\u00f3\u00f0gandi a\u00f0 vera skv\u00edsa e\u00f0a gella (nema \u00fe\u00fa s\u00e9rt a\u00f0 tala vi\u00f0 mig, dindillinn \u00feinn!) en \u00feegar \u00feetta gerist h\u00e6gt og r\u00f3lega \u00fe\u00e1 virkar \u00fea\u00f0 ekki sem and\u00f3f, heldur \u00fevert \u00e1 m\u00f3ti sem sam\u00feykki. \u00deegar ung kona \u00ed dag talar um sig og vinkonur s\u00ednar sem skv\u00edsur er \u00fea\u00f0 merkingarlaust. Ef h\u00fan hinsvegar seg\u00f0i ‘vi\u00f0 skinkurnar’ \u00fe\u00e1 g\u00e6ti \u00fea\u00f0 kannski fali\u00f0 \u00ed s\u00e9r yfirl\u00fdsingu; ‘kalla\u00f0u mig \u00fea\u00f0 sem \u00fe\u00e9r s\u00fdnist, \u00fe\u00fa getur ekki nota\u00f0 or\u00f0 til a\u00f0 stj\u00f3rna m\u00e9r.’<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tungum\u00e1li\u00f0 afhj\u00fapar vi\u00f0horf samf\u00e9lagsins. Enn \u00ed dag eru konur sem finnst gaman a\u00f0 r\u00ed\u00f0a fyrst og fremst s\u00e9\u00f0ar sem konur sem a\u00f0rir r\u00ed\u00f0a, \u00feolendur, jafnvel f\u00f3rnarl\u00f6mb. Og konur sem tj\u00e1 sig eru fyrst og fremst konur, mannverur me\u00f0 p\u00edku, eitthva\u00f0 sem karlar ney\u00f0ast kannski st\u00f6ku sinnum til a\u00f0 hlusta \u00e1 en geta \u00fe\u00f3 allavega ri\u00f0i\u00f0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Er ekki a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a t\u00edmab\u00e6rt a\u00f0 vi\u00f0 losum okkur undan \u00feeirri hugmynd a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 n\u00e1nast \u00f3e\u00f0lilegt \u00e1stand a\u00f0 hafa p\u00edku, allavega ef ma\u00f0ur hefur eitthva\u00f0 a\u00f0 segja? Yr\u00f0i \u00fea\u00f0 ekki bara \u00e1g\u00e6tur heimur \u00fear sem silkireinin getur tala\u00f0 \u00e1 safna\u00f0arsamkundum og ri\u00f0i\u00f0 svo -eins og henni bara s\u00fdnist, \u00e1n \u00feess a\u00f0 s\u00e9 neitt ni\u00f0randi vi\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00c1\u00f0ur fyrr var unga konan bl\u00f3mar\u00f3s, au\u00f0narhl\u00edn, silkirein, yngism\u00e6r. Nema h\u00fan v\u00e6ri g\u00e1la e\u00f0a skass au\u00f0vita\u00f0 en pr\u00fa\u00f0a st\u00falkan sem var f\u00f6\u00f0ur s\u00ednum hl\u00fd\u00f0in og \u00fe\u00e6gilegt kvon’fang’ v\u00e6ntanlegs maka s\u00edns, var \u00fe\u00f3 \u00e1v\u00f6rpu\u00f0 fremur \u00e1st\u00fa\u00f0lega, allavega \u00ed sk\u00e1ldskap. Svo h\u00e6ttu konur a\u00f0 vera svona \u00f3skaplega hl\u00fd\u00f0nar. \u00de\u00e6r heimtu\u00f0u mannr\u00e9ttindi og t\u00f3ku upp \u00e1 \u00feeim \u00f3skunda […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":5414,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[943],"class_list":["post-5413","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kyn-klam","tag-kvenkenningar","et-has-post-format-content","et_post_format-et-post-format-standard"],"yoast_head":"\n